Because in an off-guard moment my vegetarian fiancee said she was going to convert me too after the wedding it all went downhill. Sorry but a lettuce leaf, six kind of beans and a cherry tomato doesn't do it for me. She liked toast which is good, because that's what she is.
2006-07-17 11:36:49 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Of course I knew she was a veggie. What else was she planning for me AFTER the wedding?
2006-07-17 11:54:20 · update #1
At a freend's wedding they vowed to love each other for all that they had been, all that they are and all that they will be.
Sounds to me like she was saying - I love you, now change.
Well off out of it! You respected her decision on eating meat, she should have respected yours.
2006-07-19 01:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by Leapling 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
That was slightly immature on your part. Diet isn't nearly as important as emotional stability or deciding how to raise kids or religion but if she meant what she said then so be it. No one has the right to CHANGE anyone. I dint understand why she would want you to change after the wedding when she has been fine with you eating meat all along. Both of you should come to a compromise. That's not a reason to kick someone out of your life but it should be discussed. You loved her as a vegetarian after all.
2006-07-17 18:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Very interesting.....if your relationship was based on sanctity of eating habits..then you are better of staying single....but if this was not the first time that you pulled out of a commitment then its time for some introspection for yourself....what do you want from relationships...from people close to you....maybe answering these will help you meet up the right partner...
2006-07-18 10:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an issue here beneath veggie vs. meat-eating: it's control. It's also an issue of not accepting you as you are.
Yes, you were right to call off the wedding, if she was determined to change you against your wishes--in spite of whether she was right or wrong.
2006-07-17 19:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you mustve known about her eating habits when you propsed to her, right?! No one can convert you to another eating style, you just have to say no. Sounds to me like you were just looking for an excuse to get out of it! If thats the case, then you cant have been happy with your decision to get married and yes, you maybe right to stay single until you are sure of what you want.
2006-07-17 18:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by kitten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you love someone and agree to marry them you are basically saying that you accept them for who they are not for who you can make them. You were right. The marriage of your two lives obviously wasn't right for her. If she wants a vegetarian husband, she should look for one before even thinking about marriage. If she wants you then it shouldn't matter to her that you like meat. If it doesn't feel right before the wedding, then trust me, it will feel even worse afterward. I know from experience.
2006-07-17 19:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by Furiously Curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a vegetarian and my husband is a meat eater. I tried to suggest conversion burt he had the nads to stand his ground and we will be celebrating 25 years soon. You wanted out and took this as your chance. Don't bash someone else's choices. Admit you wanted out and took this reason to put the blame on her. I hope you and your steak are happy. You did her a favor by getting out.
2006-07-17 18:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by kksay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to make your own choices and she should have respected that rather then trying to "convert you" if she loved you she would have under stood and respected your choice. just because she looks at a deer and sees Bambi does not mean you can't look at a deer and see a stake. To each there own.
2006-07-17 19:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're debating leaving a relationship because one of you is veggie and the other isn't? Hmm - the veggie thing shouldn't be the only thing you're worried about.
2006-07-19 02:13:59 · answer #9 · answered by kristina807 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It only means you weren't meant for each other in which case, you're better off single. The right person for you is the one who likes you for who you are not what they'd like you to be.
2006-07-18 09:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by Littlegreydevil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋