Am I taking it 2 seriously??

Question

I am 12 & I have my 1st bf....we've been goin' out 4 about 2 months & talk EVERY SINGLE DAY....I ♥ him a lot. Both of our parents r problems. His parents hate the idea of him having a gf & mine think I am taking our relationship 2 seriously. I get upset when I don't get 2 c him, when we planned on it, & I stress ALL THE TIME about "is he gonna dump me?"
I take our relationship very seriously ( & I think he does 2, but just cuz of me)
Should I let up??
I really ♥ him.....I have 4 about 3 months straight....
HELP?!

Should I be this obsessed about my 1st bf?!
I basicly base my entire scheduel around him & our plans....

He means soooo much 2 me

I've seen him 4 times this entire summer......& he lives within bike-riding distance

Answer 1

damn 12 and love?
that aint love
u dont even kno wa love is

Answer 2

If you are twelve it's good to have a guy thats...well I guess you can call him your boyfriend. When I was 12 I loved a girl very deeply. My parents said I didn't know what love was. We ended up haveing the usual fights and split. When I graduated from highschool and after I still loved her. So I wouldn't take the word love lightly even if you are only twelve. One thing though, the reason I knew I loved her when we were both twelve was that I could be happy just sitting next to her or walking with her. When she would reach for my hand it felt good to be cared for. I never tried anything with her, nor did I want to. Because I loved her I wanted to protect her and not defile her. If you are in love then love will last. If you spend a little time together or a lot. You may end up falling in love with another or moving on someday. If the boy really cares for you he will be unselfish and obey your parents and his. You should do the same. Don't let your emotions run high, If love rules there is nothing to worry about. Step into your parents shoes and pretend you are them. Look at their daughter like she was your own. You are right around the corner from being a woman yourself. Pray about it.

Answer 3

You're not going to hear the answer you want to hear from me. You are trying to grow up too fast. I know you think you love this child. He may love you too BUT you are not going to be getting married or anything. You need to learn how to live and be a whole person (which takes maturity and no 12 year old has) before getting into a serious relationship. Everyone is worried for good reason. Whoever gets 'hurt' in this relationship (and someone WILL), someone is not going to be old enough to handle the emotions that come with the pain. Why don't you try this. As THIS questions on QA: "How many of you are married to or still with your boyfriend from when you were 12 years old and how old are you now????" Try it. You are not going to get a lot of answers you want to hear but you can start looking that things in the right light.

Answer 4

See, this is exactly why both sets of parents are upset over this. At 12, you're asking too much out of a relationship. I'm not trying to negate your feelings, dear, but your parents have a big point. Your life shouldn't revolve around this guy, or any guy, at any age you are in life. You shouldn't be sitting around waiting for him. Life is for the living. When you can't see him, spend time with your friends and participate in activities you truly enjoy. And don't be so worried about breaking up...you'll have tons of boyfriends throughout your life as you age. It's natural and very normal and it's all an important part of growing up. Trust me...I've been there. Don't be in such a rush to be all grown up! Good luck!

Answer 5

you are taking it a little too seriously.... maybe you should spend a lil more time doing other things instead of being with him. But you can still be together in your relationship! Instead of talking to him on the phone for hours, make it more like 20-30 minutes a day. and then you can see eachother every weekend or something. This is what me and my boyfriend did. But he broke up with me last weekend. That can happen to you too... just don't become overly obsessed, and get your mind on other things besides him. I'm sure everything will be fine! It sounds like you love him and he loves you back.. and If you've been lasting for 4 months now, that's really good! I hope everything works out okay! Good luck!

Answer 6

You base your entire schedule around him? You really should be focussed on other things as being more important - your friends, your schoolwork, your family. Try to gain some sense of perspective - it is highly unlikely that you will be together in a few years time. You're still so young and will change a lot very quickly soon. Think how different you are since you were ten - can you even imagine being ten now? You need to focus on more in your life - no relationship, no matter what age you are - is healthy like this. Force yourself to spend more time apart.

Answer 7

A lot of people are going to tell you that you shouldn't be taking it this seriously since you're 12... but I'm gonna tell you that you shouldn't be taking it this seriously because it's only been "about 2 months." No matter what age you are, I don't think 2 months is long enough for it to really be serious. Just take a step back, don't stress about him, find other things to do.

Answer 8

You are a little young to be involved in a "serious" relationship with a boy, honey. If you were my daughter, I'd be concerned, too. But that doesn't mean you guys have to stop seeing one another. Here's what you have to do: Stay close to your regular girlfriends (don't drop them all to go with your boyfriend); keep up your grades in school; help your parents around the house and, above all, DON'T SNEAK AROUND WITH THIS BOY. If your parents see that this boy is not a bad influence on you, they won't be so bothered. And the boy will like you better, too, if you've got other interests besides him.
Don't stress over anything - you're too young to have stress. Enjoy the time you see your boyfriend, but enjoy other things, too.

Answer 9

well for 12 that's a pretty long relationship...so I guess it is kind of serious but that's no reason to plan your day around him. You should try to have some alone time too. Maybe you are insecure about the relationship which is why you feel like you have to be around him all the time. Like if you don't see him he'll lose interest. Well if he has been around that long, then he won't just lose interest if you don't see him for a couple of days. Just calm down and try to listen to your parents...they really do want the best for you.

Answer 10

You're 12. He lives within "bike-riding" distance. That, to me, shows just how immature you are to be in a relationship. There's no advice that anyone can give you, because you are so young and naive that you cannot even begin to fathom how to use the advice. Your mom and dad should be putting a stop to this childish behavior RIGHT NOW. This makes me sad. If you're this obsessed now, you're gonna turn downright insane with any guy you date down the road.

Answer 11

Babe, everyone is like that with their first. But bear in mind the first is almost never the last. I personally think this happens becasue both sides can be very clingy because they are so afraid of losing them. If you think about it, hes still gona be there if you dont talk to him for a day. I also think that its often the girls that do most of the worrying in the relationship - gyus are more naturally laid back - trust me, my first girlfriend was like that and it really started to bug me. Just dont make out that your obsessed with him or anything. Yeh i know its exciting, your first, but really i know its a cliche and most people are prob saying this, but u need to have fun! theres no real problem with your relationship, your parents cant actually do anything to stop you, but i do agree with yours in that you should relax a little and have fun with him, its not nice having to worry about him 24/7 im sure. As for his parents, they cant keep him locked up forever. Im sure they were exactly like that at his age, so who are they to give off about it? Your man would be going out with girls soon anyway - 12 isnt actually that young, i had girlfriends at 12. Dont worry about them babe, and for gods skae, relax!!! x