A 11 year old boy is taking things from my 9 year old. We are all from the same neighborhood and see one another everyday. His mom says he doesnt steal. His parents are divorced and the mom says his dad has money and buys him everything , so he doesnt have to steal. All he has to say to his mom is oh, dad got that for me, when really it was taken from my son. He only wants to come over and play occasionally but my son lets the boy play with everything. When my son goes to his house they boy says he can only play with one thing. My son sees things at his house he knows was his from the start because the boy never had it before.
2006-07-17 10:28:29 · 16 answers · asked by kimmy209 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
You see I enjoy making people look stupid, i.e. the theifs mom. Heres what I would do. Depending on what the klepto takes usually, I would make a little note that says something to the effect of "This is John Doe's toy, your sons dad didn't buy it for him" and I would tape it inconspicuously to 9 or 10 toys that he is likely to take, then next time, go over the kids house ask her to lift up GI joes flack jacket and ta da.... instant humiliation.
2006-07-19 09:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by peardietz 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The old addage 2 wrongs don't make a right. It's not OK to steal back toys. Don't let this boy into your home again and let him know why. And don't let your son play over there. As for the stolen toys leave them where they are, and consider it a lesson learned. The boy never should have been let back into your home after this was discovered and couldn't be rectified with the mother.
2006-07-19 07:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by tbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son is in a position to steal his possessions back then it is his right to do so, especially since the older boy's mother is too lazy to check on her child. Do tell your son to be careful and do it discreetly as who knows how the other child might react to your son stealing 'his' things.
I'd also stop that boy from visiting your house because he really can't be trusted and if his mother asks why then you can curtly explain your reasons. If you can't stop him without risking your son being bullied, watch them like a hawk when they're over at your house and keep them confined to a room where there aren't many valuables lying around.
2006-07-17 10:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by starchilde5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you tried talking to the mom, and she is in denial, I would talk to the boy directly. When he comes over to your house, calmly inform him that he can't come inside because you know he is stealing from your boy. He may deny it, but at least he will know that you are on to him. I had a similar situation with a neighbor boy. My son saw him at the neighborhood pool, playing with my son's missing gameboy. (it still had the game we had rented from the video store in it). I waited for the boy at the bus stop, and told him "Billy would like his gameboy back". He was so shocked that he didn't even try to deny having it. He just reached into his backpack and handed it to me. I also told him that he needed to quit taking things that didn't belong to him. The next day, we found a small pile of toys that he had taken at the base of our mail box.
2006-07-19 06:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your son two wrongs don't make a right. If the other mother is not willing to see the truth then maybe its time to stop the play dates between them. Your son can decide if he wants to replace the toys stolen or take him out to get something he wants that may be nicer than what he gave up
2006-07-17 10:37:57 · answer #5 · answered by tweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it back and stop letting the boy in your house. If he really has to come over he has to stay where you can see him and also only allow one thing out at a time and check it is all there before putting it away. I personally would not let the kid in my house.
2006-07-17 22:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe so many people said it's okay to steal it back!! If your boy steals, even if it was his to begin with, he is no better than the boy who stole it from him in the first place. If you really want his stuff back, there needs to be some confrontation. If they are adamant about keeping it, let it go. Better to lose some things than become a thief yourself. Don't stoop to his level.
2006-07-17 10:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would get the dad involved and get to the bottom of this. The childs mother has to know if in fact her child is stealing. I also would not allow the child to come over anymore.
2006-07-19 01:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah I would definantely steal the stuff back if I could and I wouldnt let that kid come to my house anymore
2006-07-17 10:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by smalltownangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all...I would beat the crap out of the person that stole my stuff and then, Yes!! I will take my stuff back...I won't steal them back because the stuff were never theirs in the first place...I'll make sure that person will never make the same mistake to me in the future
2006-07-17 10:35:56 · answer #10 · answered by keziah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋