I am a mother of three unemployed. The children need food etc but can't satisfy them. Am i guilty for not prov

Question

I am a mothe who is unemployed. I have three daughters from my husband who is dead three years ago. As this children are a blessing from God, he instructs us to teach and bring our children up in the ways of the Lord and pleases him. My children are brought up in a christian way spritually, but I am talking about physically. You know children need to be sheltered, given food, school fees, stationaries etc but when they ask me to support them with those stuffs as mentioned above and I don't satisfy them am I committing sin? Is God pleased with me?

Answer 1

Anna, how old are these children?

Answer 2

God loves you no matter what. I'm sure he is pleased with your desire to give your children what they need, and to nourish them. He also knows that you are facing hard times, and that this country is in hard times. He has compassion for the poor. I also think he is angry at any injustices that helped put you and your children where you are (e.g. unstable job market).

I recommend you apply for food stamps.
http://www.fns.usda.gov/fsp/

or even welfare.
http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
(or look up "public assistance" with your state's name in a search engine.)

Now, if you belong to a conservative church, they may have put a major guilt trip on you about receiving government help. But look at this:

From Romans 13 (NIV)
1Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. ...4For he [the one in authority] is God's servant to do you good.
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=52&chapter=13&version=31

Now religious ultraconservatives use Romans 13 or similar verses to prove that the government shouldn't be doing welfare or such programs that help the poor. However, I think the Scripture says the opposite: that the government is there TO DO YOU GOOD! If the government has a program which you need right now to help your family, why not use it? Do you use public libraries? Would you go to a city hospital? Well, if you need food for your kids, please go for the food stamps!
http://www.fns.usda.gov/fsp/

Also, your local churches or community centers should also have outreaches that provide food, clothing, and other services for the poor. Speak to your pastor, or to another local church if you're too embarrassed, and see how they can help you.

Now, as far as luxuries are concerned, I think you have more sense than to give in to pressures to "have to" buy the brand-name sneakers or jeans. However, I recently saw King Lear by William Shakespeare, in which Lear declares that those things beyond mere survival separate us from the animals. Therefore, find a few things, even inexpensive or free things, beyond the absolutely necessary to lift your spirits and your daughters' spirits. It could be local kids' activities (some are free or low-cost), or music (singing, CDs, a harmonica), or even just crayons and drawing paper!

Now after you get the necessary help to provide for your and your children's basic needs, see if you can find some help with job training. Your state should have a Department of Labor who can help with such things, and a local church, school, or community center may also help with job training.

Possibly you may need some therapy to help lift you out of depression: a clergyperson, a local clinic, or whatever good is available. Many mental health clinics have a sliding pay scale.

God bless you much! I'll pray for you.

P.S. What about your relatives, and your husband's relatives? They should help you at least a little!

Addendum: just because she's on the Internet that doesn't mean she owns her own computer. She may be in a library, an inexpensive Internet cafe, at a school, at a friend or relative's house, or at a church. Also, you don't know why she's unemployed, or how young her children are. She may also have gained the computer before her husband died, or it may have been a gift. She make think the computer is a necessary tool worth the expense, and if so, I don't blame her. Have some compassion, people!

Answer 3

Not only are you committing a sin by not providing food and shelter to your children, but you are committing a crime as well. Negligence is generally frowned upon. It's time to get a job and take care of your responsibilities. Teaching them spirituality is good, but you are teaching them by example to be irresponsible as well. You are also teaching them that the people they care most about can't be trusted to do what is best for them. It's a great disservice. If you've got the internet, you should have food on the table first. You give all of us single mothers a bad name. Get help.

Answer 4

My mom was a single mother of three, but she worked two jobs to support us and had no help from anyone except us kids, she taught us know to do the house work and take care of ourselves until she got home at night, it sounds like you are having a hard time but if you can't or don't work it will get worse unless you have some kind of a plan to make you lives better. You should try and find a way to bring in some money to support your children after all it isn't their fault they don't have things they need.

Answer 5

The Lord doesn't give us more than we can bear. As long as your are meeting the basic needs of your children both physically and emotionally there are no sins being committed here. Sit your children down and explain to them that because you are unemployed at the moment there can't be any extras. Tell them that this is time during which each of them must be supportive of you and each other. Dependent upon their ages ask them to be creative in developing ideas in which to earn the money to buy the extras they feel they need.

Answer 6

If the children are still living with you, find government programs that will help you to provide until you get another job. You could draw from your late husband's social security, there is a program for welfare and or food stamps. Yes, God wants you to do all that you can to provide and care for your children. Only you and God can know for sure if you are not providing because you aren't able or if you are just too lazy to do all that you can. Remember, when providing for you, God never got lazy and took the easy way out.

Answer 7

As long as u worship him and love him he is always pleased, as long as ur kids r healthy, happy, vibrant, full of life and love u both should be pleased but if ur that worried about a job see if u can get a trusting neighbor or family member 2 watch them after school while ur job hunting and local churches, salvation armies, and those kinds of organizations will help u with clothes and school supplies. Don't be afraid or ashamed 2 talk 2 ur kids school counselor she can probably tell u about more organizations, no cost childcare, and possible employment opportunities and agentcies heck if u can bake and cook real good sell cakes, pies, cookies, dinners. Hope all this helps and good luck 2 u and ur family!! God Bless!!

Answer 8

No he is not, you should be getting social security on them if they are under the age of 18. Which should be more than enough money to support a family of 4 with. You need to watch your pennies as well as get a job. There is no reason a mother should let her children go hungry............
Then you mention brought up as christians, I would venure to say you can ask the church for food , there are all kinds of pantries out there to help feed the poor.
Get a grip and do the right thing. Your an adult and asking a question like this you should be ashamed of yourself for even asking us.....................................................

Answer 9

How you can have three children and not be working is something that is uphauling....I think ANYBODY who isn't working to support their children, NO MATTER what the work is, is awful and deserves to have their children taken away from them.
Your a horrible mother for making them suffer, because you said your husband died, thats what my mother did, when our father died, she just stopped doing anything, stopped functioning, now we are all messed up in our own ways...we were so fricken poor and it was the most horrific thing she could have ever done to us kids..
I think honestly if you can't or refuse to work when you have kids, you should have them taken away..I dont care what Your god has to say about this...
your a horrible woman...

Answer 10

First of all you need to get a job that way you can give them what they need food, shelter, clothes etc. There are places that will help you with assistance. If you are not sure how to get to them ask for some help. You are charged by God to take care of your children. God bless

Answer 11

i think of it may be the be sure that has the backside earnings that stayed at domicile to enhance the youngsters! Which in maximum families it may be the mother! some couples nonetheless won't be able to discover the money for to try this although despite in the event that they have been given a "extensive tax credit." i'm fortunate adequate that my spouse earns extra beneficial than adequate so i will stay at domicile - i visit be getting Maternity pay from my artwork for 9 months and then I plan to stay at domicile for yet another 3 months and then circulate back to artwork section time (purely some hours a week) - As i think of this could help as going back to artwork after been a stay at domicile mom for 5 years could be complicated going - so i think of it could be extra desirable to proceed working some hours a week. My newborn would be at my mothers or my companions mothers mutually as i'm working so i does no longer could desire to pay for childcare like maximum human beings!