What would you do if your friend was pregnant and you were living with her?

Question

My friend is only 19 and the guy isnt helping (big surprise...jk)!

Answer 1

Be there for your friend, she is going to need a lot of support over the next few months...and beyond.
Maybe you could have a word with her boyfriend and tell him that he ought to be doing more.
I know when I was pregnant, I needed just the simplest of things doing for me, because I was too dizzy to do things myself, and knowing that my fiance was there was a big help, so let your friend know that you are there for her and that you don't mind doing her share of the chores for a little while if she feels unable to do them.
Also, as hormones take effect, be prepared for the odd snappy comment, and don't take things personally- pregnancy can do weird things to a woman!

Just look after your friend, and do whatever you think you should to make her more comfortable.

Answer 2

Well im 19 and have 2 kids....and i do know even though my husband has been there .... you feel lonely, fat, unattractive, tired, hmmm what else, the key is just to be there for her and if shes not excited then you act excited even if your not, And you'll probably just want her to shut up bc pregnant women nag, talk about there pregnancies alot because thats all we can do. So just support her and keep her spirits up and be a friend bc you will both feel better along with the baby in the end. See it this way, that innocent baby inside her cannot help its there so dont make things hard on the baby.

Answer 3

I would definitely be there for her. It's important she remembers that this is a time to celebrate! You need to make her feel like having this baby is a good thing. Be there for her by throwing her a great baby shower. She will appreciate it more than you know. If the guys not helping it's not the end of the world. She can collect child support after the baby is born.

Answer 4

She's your friend. Don't turn your back on her. She probably needs you and your friendship a lot right now.

Once things are at ease I would lay down ground rules if she plans on staying with you, because you have to make sure she don't take advantage of your caring and your friendship. My daughter had a friend who was in your spot at one time. Things were ok all the way up till the baby was about 4 mo. old. Then the girl would go to the store and leave the baby. she told my daughters friend that she would be right back and wouldn't return till after midnight or later and had never gone to the store. She didn't pay her way and used the baby as her excuse (because she had to take care of her and never had any money left) Yet she was loading up with clothes and nights out leaving the friend stuck home with her baby..........She didn't clean up after herself or the baby. When the lease was up my daughter's friend moved out leaving her friend and baby at the apartment.

be her friend, but don't let her use it in a negative way

Answer 5

I Agree with Sandra K19. If you know your friend for a long time. you should help her. at least 'till the baby is 1 or 2 month old. Trust me she will thank you one day because you were there for her when ever she needs you. And that is what friends do.

Answer 6

What exactly are you asking? What would we do about what? Dealing with her while she is pregnant, helping with her baby needs? What? Need more info before I can answer. Other than that, just support and care about her and try to do the best you can to help see her through it.

Answer 7

Be there for her and help her through it. Its a time of lonliness. You just wouldnt know unless you were in her shoes. So just confort her and stay by her side.

Answer 8

Be supportive and help out anyway possible.