i cannot understand why my bf is friendly with other girls.. freindly so that i go so jealous and feel like ****! then he comes to me and swears he loves me and realy demonstrates his love.. i dnt blow a fight when i feel jealous i used to do it alot i no longer do it i just stay quite cuz i dnt like the way i become when i get jealous(nasty) and i dnt like the way he tries to apologize to me which makes me forgive him the minute he says sorry..after that i feel i shudnt have started the rage from the start but i stil cant help not gettin jealous when he compliments my friend or any girl i trust him but y do i get jealous and why doesnt he consider that? shud i keep tellin him and i think he like it wheni get jealous but i definetly dnt like it he doesnt let me spk to strangers cuz he gets jealous i respect him and i try my best not to make him jealous.wat annoys me is when he flirts with a girl and she thinks he fancies her i get confused if he really does or is she talkin too much!!
2006-07-17 10:12:16 · 15 answers · asked by mmmmmmmmmm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From a man, you have 3 options:
1) Decide to trust/tolerate the behavior and quit harassing him (continuing to bring it up strains a relationship, treat someone like a cheater and they will happily oblige your expectations.)
2) Give him the ultimatum (in a nice or hard way) to stop the behavior as a condition of your relationship. This will most likely lead to option #3.
3) End the relationship
Most likely, his behavior will not change. If he's not really cheating then it's a personal choice of tolerance for you. If he is (or is likely to be) cheating on you then the prudent choice is to find someone more compatible.
Given the nature of your question I assume you are very young. As most people age they become more tolerant and secure. Also, as relationships age, trust builds or degrades accordingly. If your husband of 20 years is a flirt you probably don't care and think it is cute. If your new teenage boytoy is a flirt that's another matter.
Your mileage may vary.
2006-07-17 10:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by whalehunter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some serious trust issues. It's hard to separate the anger from the insecurities on this post, but my question is, did you dad ever cheat on your mother? Did he ever flirt with other women and make you mom jealous or angry?
You seem very insecure. Was something taken from you in the past?
Forget about your bf for a moment. What is your fear?
2006-07-17 10:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by brian k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol. I love doing that too, getting my gf jealous. But here is my advice, you should completely trust your partner in a relationship, if there is no trust, then there is no love. And sometimes, once in a while, make believe that you're jealous so he'll know that you still love him and want him. To me, getting my gf jealous means either i still have it with the girls, and i know i'm still attractive, or maybe i want my gf to keep that interest in me, knowing that from all the girls i flirt with, in the end she's the one i chose in the end. The amusing thing i find about girls is that double-effect....like for example, why girls would look for married guys over single guys.
I love you girls....you're so fascinating and intriguing...yet so adorable and amusing, hehehe.
~Thomas
2006-07-17 10:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by tomhanken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you consider flirting? You have only said "being friendly", "complimenting them", and "talking to them". My husband is a flirt, and I have no problems with it. I'm a flirt, and he doesn't have a problem with it. Just relax, and realise that you are the one he will be leaving with. And talk to him about it, and make sure he knows exactly what you consider flirting. But, before you do, think about what you are considering flirting and try to see if it really is, or if it is just normal convo skills that he is using. Personally, I see nothing wrong with a guy(or girl) giving compliments and being friendly with their SO's friends. IMHO:)
2006-07-17 10:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by littlevivi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if someone in a relationship is accusing the other of cheating and is jealous of that person talking to the opposite sex, it is because the person doing the accusing has problem,s within him/her self. they are insecure in their ability to be in a romantic relationship.
Look back at your past and see if anywhere in your past relationships you have ever cheated on someone. then you will understand why your asking this question.
2006-07-17 10:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him not to treat you that way, because you're suppose to be his bf. When you tell him that, and he disagrees with you, you should probably not be seeing him. It won't be your fault. He's a stupid guy. There are plenty of guys out there who respects.
2006-07-17 10:23:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not like that type, then find a guy who respects you and respects women as more than conquests.
2006-07-17 10:16:14 · answer #7 · answered by John Blix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooo... i know just what you mean!!! my bf does the same thing!!! I havent figured out how to get the point across either. It seems like no matter how many times you tell him they just dont get it!!!
2006-07-17 10:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by laureny23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 wayz u can go
tell him straight up how u feel
OR
give him a taste of his own medicine and flirt w/ other guys in front of him!!!
2006-07-17 10:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by *islandchick* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn how to spell, then do us all a favor and relax.
2006-07-17 10:15:15 · answer #10 · answered by morgysan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋