me and my boyfriend derrick have dated for almost 10 months, i love him so much. but im younge and im afraid its not really love its just fasination or a HUGE crush, but he feels the same way. he bought me a ring and proposed to me. and i really do want to marry him. but shood i experiment to make sure he is the one? make sure im not making a mistake? im just scared! he is so perfect to me and for me. it kills me to even think this
2006-07-17 10:10:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
no you're not too young. i am the same age and i've been with my bf for a year and a half. he proposed to me too. but you can never be too careful with guys... i think you should see how long he will stay with you before he wants to have sex. because that really messes up the whole relationship. i think i might be pregnant so please take my advice. don't do anything until you're ready. if he loves you, he'll wait
2006-07-17 10:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by DeAd DiScO 4 · 7⤊ 12⤋
jeez girl give yourself a break.
you are 1-5. even if u are soulmates and are meant to be together until the day you guys die, there is absolutely no need for you to marry him right now. marriage will complicate your relationship so much...or even the thought of marrying. why can't you guys just date and have fun? i notice relationships are just so serious these days. and by have fun i don't mean fooling around, i mean...just enjoy life and time with each other. go out and play some sports..be a teenager, not a 40 yr old married couple.
if you are scared, then obviously you are not ready to make any serious commitments. and no, you should not just experiment to make sure he is the one. you really can't "make sure" i mean...you just know, when that moment comes. and please don't take that as some magical "omg he did this? he's so great! he must be the one!" moment...it's most likely to be one of those very ordinary days when you realize it. 10 months? yes, it's pretty long for your age, but in the long run...it is nothing. try 3 yrs before you decide if you should marry him or not. good luck though. and remmeber, if he ever pressures you by saying how you don't love him like he loves you ..or how your relationship has been a lie because you won't commit, leave him b/c that's just bs.
2006-07-17 17:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by DD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would agree that 15 is a little young to know 'true love. Many things can happen in your lives...your family could move, one of you could go off to college, you could get pregnant (not a good thing at 15!). All ideas from everyone who answers this question should be taken into consideration. I honestly feel the most important thing to both of your futures should be your education. Get through school...continue dating, if you choose...but don't ever turn down education for a boyfriend/girlfriend. You'll find out as you get older that boyfriends/girlfriends don't usually stay around as long as you wish. So, you always have to watch out for yourself. :) Take this question to an older friend or family member and as them...you will be surprised what the answers can be. Good Luck!! :)
2006-07-17 17:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kendra Leigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married 28 years to the same man I fell in love with when I was 15. I married at 19. We have had our ups and downs through life. I think I got married way to young because I wasn't ready to settle down, I hadn't lived my life yet. Don't make the same mistake, don't give your life away until you have lived and become your Own woman. If he is truly your soul-mate, he still will be when you are 23 or older. Good luck to you!
2006-07-17 17:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by skybludeb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just take it slow. If he is your soulmate then he will wait for you. Getting married is a big deal. Make sure you are ready to settle down. Atleast wait until you finish high school. If it is meant to be then it will be there when you're ready. Have you talked to Derrick about how you are feeling? Is he your age or older? My husband and I started dating when I was 15. He proposed to me after my graduation and we got married 2yrs later. We're still together after 8 1/2yrs. Good luck to you!!
2006-07-17 17:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's perfect for you here and now. Unfortunately, you can't realize how much you will change in the coming years. Go to school, get good grades, enjoy your youth. There is plenty of time to worry about getting married (like in 10 years). If you are right, there's nothing to worry about you'll be together forever, if you are wrong you could be setting yourself up for a very hard life.
What do your parents say? Listen to them.
2006-07-17 17:16:35 · answer #6 · answered by badslaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your gut feelings. if you are scared and thinking that you are too young and it's just a huge crush, it probably is.
I don't know anyone who married their high school sweetie and is still married, however I know several who are divorced now.
You won't believe how much you will change between now and when you graduate college. Most likely you will just look back on this guy as a fond memory.
Good Luck!
2006-07-17 17:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your to young to marry anyone at 15. If your soul-mates time will tell. Just enjoy being in love. Remember that you need to experience a few downs together before you know for sure if your love can last.
Life is long. Don't rush it.
or
Life is short. Don't waste it.
Pick one they both apply to your situation.
2006-07-17 17:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by irartist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will grow and change and so will he, my boyfriend when i was sixteen bought me a ring proposed too but eventually we moved on after 2 years of dating. U might be in love, but i wouldn't plan on a long future together. Just enjoy the time u have now.
2006-07-17 17:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by Jen S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe, but your too young to be thinking about getting married but think about it seriously is it love or do you really care about each other allot or is it a huge crush like you said because this happened to me to except I didn't ask her to marry me but now were pretty good friends and I'm glad I didn't have sex or marry her
2006-07-17 17:18:12 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow youre super young. if it is really meant to be, then it can wait until you are both finished growing up!!! my best friend in school started dating her now husband when they were both in 8th grade.. now they are an adorable family of 3!!!! just make sure that you both are finished growing up before you get married... i would not have believed how much i was gonna change if someone had told me then..
2006-07-17 17:15:29 · answer #11 · answered by Bean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋