How do I tell my CHRISTIAN parents that I want to become a Wiccan?

Question

Practically everyone in my family, Imediate and extended, is a Christian. My parents flipped out the last time I told them that I wanted to become a Witch. How do I go about it this time without having them be dissapointed or worried or flip out?

Practically everyone in my family, Imediate and extended, is a Christian. Last time I tried to tell my parents that I wanted to become a Witch, they flipped out. That was when I was 12, now I'm 14 and I still don't think that they would take it well. A lot of people who already answered have asked me why would I tell them, it's better to keep it a secret. I am the type of person who has a hard time keeping important things from her parents. Every time I go to church I feel guilt towards myself for not telling them. I feel that my relationship with my parents would be a lot better if I told them. Not to mention that I'll still be a minor for another 4 years. Christianity just doesn't feel right. Every time I think about Wicca I feel amazing, like I belong. Please answer and don't be biased!

Answer 1

I love the fact the Christians are using this as a way to tell you that you need to find Jesus and agree with your parents. The simple fact is that none of us can answer your question, only you can. We don't know your parents. Are they like mine were with my sister, and threatened her with all sorts of fire and brimstone, or are they more tolerant. You need to find the answer to this one on your own. I hope that your parents are the kind of people that are willing to let you make your own decisions, if not, well I don't know what to tell you besides run from the torches. Good luck.

Answer 2

First, to those who don't think you should tell your parents, don't listen to them. For the sake of your relationship with your parents, don't keep a secret like that from them.

Second, don't fool yourself into thinking that there is ANY way you can tell your parents something like that without them freaking out. I'm not a parent but I am a Christian and I can imagine what they'd be thinking (as I'm sure you could). With that in mind, you'll just have to be as straight as possible with them.

The best you can hope for is that they'll take it as a phase that some people go through (which, not to be offensive, based on experience it may very well be).

Just remember that the important thing is to maintain that relationship with your parents at all costs. Taking the 'easy' way out by not telling them will only cause major problems later.

Answer 3

Just sit down with them and say:

"Listen, Mom, Dad, I never get any attention or feel like I'm special. You don't meet my social needs and you haven't taught me how to select friends that can meet my social needs either. As a result, I'm so starved for attention that I'm considering joining a religion that's a complete sham that was invented so it's creator could make money off of a fad fity years ago. It' either that, teenaged pregnancy, or you pay more attention to me."

I almost guarenty that your parents will start scheduling some time to spend with you and give you the attention and love you deserve. It's even probably going to be good attention and they'll praise you for being mature and intellegent enough to recognise and act on your true motivations, as opposed to the endless harassment and bullshit that you would have gotten had you actually gone ahead and done it.

EDIT

So, having thought about it, I wanted to be more clear:
I REALLY think you should have the exact conversation above with your parents. However, if you're really interested in Wiccan and not just the attention so many teenagers seek when they make that decision, then I would suggest you do a lot of thourough research about your new prospecitve religion, Read Gardner's book(s) and not all the cheap knockoffs that aren't REALLY about Wiccan, but are about making money off of the deluded. After you're sure, it's what you really want, then I'd suggest telling your parents that you've done a lot of research and that their religion isn't the one for you. I'd also suggest going to their services with them until you move out on your own. After all, they're your parents and it's their job in their eyes to see to it that you get raised correctly. If they don't do what they can they're going to feel like failures. Once you're on your own, do what you like.

Answer 4

I personally think that breaking away from your family tradition of Christianity is a brave step in itself, so I'd like to offer you my support for that. I like the idea that you're considering another religion when it doesnt seem to me like there is a lot of choice around you. As for everybody else here telling her that ultimately she will end up past the pearly gates and jesus will save her? Thats your belief dont force it on her.

I'm not too certain what being a Wiccan entails, but I do know that it isnt about worshipping Satan and everything unholy. If you're as enlightened about it as you sound then I would think you agree with me.

I think what you'll need to do is just be honest and open with them. Theres not a lot they can do about it if you choose not to believe in Jesus Christ, Christianity, or a faith as complex as Christianity. Perhaps you could say something along the lines of: "at the moment, i'm contemplating my faith, and i'm seeing what other opinions and options are open to me." If you say that you're just thinking about it, I dont think they'll be taking you straight to the stake. Perhaps you could explain why you're thinking of embracing something else, so they can see you're making a rational decision.

If they dont see things your way, which in honesty they may not do, then unfortunately theres not a lot that you can do. If they have strong convictions over their faith they might not make an exception for you. Reitterate the point to them that you're still their daughter and that you love them both very much. Good luck!

Answer 5

First off, you don't say how old you are, but I assume you're still living at home and will continue to do so for some time. You might explain to them that you're searching for that which feels right to you, and you know how important Christianity is to them, but you need to do this for yourself. You might feel the need to hint that this could indeed be just a "phase" and prodigal son, yadda yadda. I also agree with the suggestion that you introduce them to the basics, if they're willing to listen, and tell them that you won't be imposing this on any other members of the family, since you respect their choice to choose their own faith. Good luck, and try to stay calm and reasonable even if they flip out.

Answer 6

Hate ta tell ya, blessedman, but MY religions been around longer than YOUR religion. And no, I'm not talking about Wicca. Wicca is only fifty or so years old. I'm talking about the deep respect for nature and all things beautiful in the world. I'm talkign about the OLD religion. And, to answer the question at hand, I wouldn't, honestly, not until you are older and outta the house. I STILL haven't told my mom I'm pagan, and I'm 23.


And Wicca is NOT related to Satanism. Wiccans don't even acknowledge Satan most of the time. God people, research before your spew ridiculous and uninformed answers up here.

Answer 7

Saying you want to become a witch is a poor choice of words. Your parents upon hearing that will conjure up visions of Satanic rituals and devil worship. This is certainly NOT what Wiccan is about. It may be better to approach it gradually in terms that might not be so objectionable to them. Discuss with them the wonder of the things that have been created in nature and how it relates to you. Assure them that you are not turning your back on God, but that you feel that you may grasp a better understanding of your own spirituality through the discovery of how you fit into all of creation.

Answer 8

Well, i am 36 years old and a wiccan. My husband is pretty okay with it, but.....other extended family just found out, and i would suggest not telling them. People still are prejudice against wiccans, and they like to give you a hard time with asking you a lot of questions, then alot of harrassment goes on. I guess i shouldnt tell you to lie, but seriously, i think you should keep it quiet. OR...be prepared to answer alot of hard to answer questions. email me with any questions, please!! By the way people, keep your ignorance about wicca to yourself. Some of you need to start reading and stop being so ignorant. Wicca is not a part of Satanism seeing we dont even believe in Satan!! Please let people have their own religions and dont judge, thats not very christian is it now?? Thank you

Answer 9

why do wanna become a witch when every one wanna become an angel u just this abt jesus christ how sad he will be when his child goes away frm him as u told u wanna become a wiccan without making ur parents sad and u know for each u sin u do the evil laughs at our jesus christ au think how sad he will be and now i just think u r a christian and think what all think u have the main thing u gotta very good parents who is very loving and caring and think of think the children in the streets who r orphan and if u could breath u can see,hear do u think all this blessing were given to u by the evil.plz i beg u don't go even i'm a person who does wrong thingsbut its my duty to tell u abt jesus when u think like that . do u know muslims have to pray 5 times a day because then they will remember their god and will not forget the blessing he has given to them.

Answer 10

Look up Wicca on the net and print a ton of info on it, along with Christianity stemming from Pagan beliefs and show it to them. Hopefully, if they are open-minded people, they will understand your decision. Also, if you are underage, you may just have to deal with there decision until you turn eighteen and then let them know that you still want to be Wiccan and they can either love you or hate you for it.