Advise, please!!!?

Question

My friend has a baby with her ex. She recently broke up with him because he was cheating on her. He is hysterical, wants her back, etc. Well, he has been pulling some incredible things, being a real a**hole, saying all kinds of horrible things to her. Last night, she said was veyr strange. She isn't crazy, she isn't stupid, she was born and raised Catholic, but last night she said she saw something very odd. She said that he was hysterical crying again, and she felt bad so she went to his place to try to help. She said after an hour of crying hysterically, sobbing, all that fun stuff, he calmed instantly, got up and blew his nose. IT scared the hell out of her, and she ran for the door, she thought he was going to beat her. But she said he came down the stairs after her, and said, very clearly "I'm not going to hurt you. (Insert her ex's name here) Doesn't want that." All she could do was stare at him. He continued to talk like this to her all night, referring to himself in the third

(third) person. This alternate personality kept referring to her ex ina negative way, althoug he called himself his guardian angel. PErsonally, I believed she witnessed something like multiple personality disorder. Or, some really elaborate manipulating scheme to keep her there and in the room and feeling sorry for him. But, we can't rule outthat there are supernatural things involved. Could it be a spirit? A guardian angel? Could it be multiple personality? In multiple personality, I thought you didn't remember what your other personality does, but he remembered everything that went on. Thats what she thought to. It could be that he is just crazy. I need real advice here, thanks!


(Reposted in mental health..because...well...he sounds like a wacko to me!)

Answer 1

This sounds dangerous. Could she move?

Answer 2

First off, he's got a whole host of problems and she should limit her contact with him. He cheated on her, which shows a lack of respect for her as the person he chose, that's right I said chose, to have a child with. Secondly, he overreacted and cried hysterically, said terrible things to her, which is just wrong, being that she's pregnant.
Thirdly, if he does have MPD, this stress might have caused it, but I doubt it, seeing as how he has the presence of mind to get up and blow his nose, shows that the two personalities are one in the same, and just a manipulation ploy. How would one personality know to blow its nose after the other was crying when the disorder implies that each personality is its own seperate person?
Tell your friend to stay away from this guy and only contact him through a third party, like a lawyer or the cops. She has an unborn baby that she now has to think about and do what's best for.

Answer 3

It sounds like he may need some medical assistance. She may, too, as it may be a long road ahead with him. Although it could be a multiple personality, he could also be bi-polar/manic depressive. It's amazing what Doctors can do these days. Sometimes it may take prescription medication, other times it may just take some therapy. She should really look into this and maybe speak to his family and find out if this is something that has been ongoing in the past and could it be hereditary. Good luck. :)

Answer 4

Her ex needs the help of a mental health professional, regardless of whether one believes in angels or not.

His actions, if they were merely a sick kind of manipulation, are not going to be inducive to raising a child in a safe environment.

Additionally, if he truly is mentally ill, she is not safe with him. I can't say as he is going to physically harm her or the child, but the mental anguish she and the baby would suffer with this man cannot be discounted.

Have her contact a women's help center for the names and addresses of people who can assist her in travelling the maze of this man's personality. And, please, if you can, talk her into not seeing him again until they BOTH have some serious assistance to deal with this situation.

Good luck and a special thank you to you for being such a good friend to help her in her time of need.

By the way, the suggestion to her ex to seek mental health assistance should be made by someone other than her. To say it herself may result a new and frightening fight. She should avoid contact with him until this matter is resolved and seek legal advice regarding visitation with the child.

Answer 5

Wow, this is an interesting circumstance. Well if it is his kid I would make sure she gets welfare so that she will be set no matter what. Of course being the father he does have a right to his child. If she is afraid of him though then that is not a good thing. She needs to find out for sure. If he would hit her, he could abuse their child and that is very very bad in both cases. Maybe she could suggest therapy. If he freaks out then she will know he is nutty. If not, the therapist could know somthing. I would make sure he is not alone with the child for a long time... you never know and keep an eye out for signs. Who knows, maybe he will turn out ok, but if you are worried then I wouldnt trust him. If it gets worse, get a restraining order. I hope everything turns out ok

Answer 6

It is hard to tell it could all be fake to scare her, or he could really have a problem. I would advise her to stay far from him either way. She could also tell someone in his family that he obviously needs help. As for multiple personality or being possesed I suppose that depends on what you believe in.

Answer 7

I think it was just a ruse to get her back. If he truly was multi she would have seen it by now. She needs to get her and her child away from him. If he can do something like fake mp then he may hurt her. I agree with the restraining order

Answer 8

In any of the scenarios you mentioned, he need shelp and she needs to protect herself and her baby by keeping away from him. She should never be alone with him until his mental stability is proven. If he's threatening her, she should report it to police, each and every time, to build a case against him if he starts stalking her.

Answer 9

I bet it's staged, trying to get attention. Nervous breakdown act as a last resort.

Answer 10

I don't believe in supernatural stuff, and agree with you that he's either crazy or very very manipulative. Either way, she needs to not see him again, or leave her child with him. he sounds dangerous to me.