If love is supposed to make people happy and content, why does it hurt so much? Why does it scar us, wound us, mar us; why do we put up with it? Why does it hurt and cause us to be depressed? =(
2006-07-17 09:38:48 · 27 answers · asked by pilotmanitalia 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So many great answers so far. thank you all so much.
2006-07-17 09:54:17 · update #1
I thought Brent was kinda wrong, it could be love because sometimes love isn't felt by both people. If you loved someone that hurt you then they never really loved you. Love hurts because it's our strongest emotion and when you love someone they're kept so close to your heart that they become apart of your soul and when they leave they take apart of you with them. This can cause you to feel wounded.
2006-07-17 09:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by Federico 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion, it doesn't. That one true person that is meant for you, doesn't hurt, scar, wound, or mar. People are so quick to throw love into the equation, now the death of that person is a different story, that hurts a lot. The practice 'love' hurts only because people get so caught up in the idea of love instead of really searching in the soul for the true feeling of it. If people would slow down and realize that the reason for the heartache is the reason it was not true love, there would be a lot less sadness associated with love.
2006-07-17 09:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by celtic925 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because nothing is wholly good- the happiness comes with a price. Even if things go ideally, eventually someone dies. Love is dangerous, and never to be taken lightly. I'm sorry that you got hurt. Remember that if it doesn't hurt, it wasn't real. Try to find solace in the time that you had, and accept the fact that this is a new time. It hurts so deeply because you opened yourself up- that's not bad. Put your guard up for a while till you heal, and then lower it again. Pain is not to be feared, just learned from.
2006-07-17 09:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont think love always hurts but it does alot. But I guess the saying Sometimes the pain isnt worth the glory and sometimes it is. Depends if the pain and depression pays off or not. Every couple are going to have there ups and downs if thats what you mean. but I really dont know why it hurts so much. The relationship I am in doesnt hurt and we love each other alot so I dont know.
2006-07-17 09:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by redwings_fan21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it's because it's the only way to learn. When we move on from one heartbreak you will be more protective in the next relationship. We put up with it because we like the way it feels when they love you at least for 1 minute even if it's followed by 60 min of hurting. It makes you depressed because you think that you aren't a good person for any one to really love. I don't know why I put up with it, I guess we just wish it all changes at one point.
2006-07-17 09:47:50 · answer #5 · answered by pinkberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion...It hurts so much because we are expecting so much and we give so much of ourselves in the process. Then we are faced with trying to regain that which was lost. We become bitter and cold until we learn to love again (then for some, the same vicious cycle is repeated).
2006-07-17 09:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by Meg...Out of Hybernation 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why, because the person you love is the only person that you let get to know you with all your guards down. That trust can only be giving to one person at a time and they will get to see your every emotion, and the passion that you have for a certain topic.
2006-07-17 10:11:51 · answer #7 · answered by Blaq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real love doesn't hurt, it isn't supposed to. The "love" you are talking about hurts because we want to be in love or love so bad that we don't care who it is, and when it doesn't work out because it isn't meant to be that hurts.
2006-07-17 09:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by space_occupied 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because to truley love someone is to open yourself up heart and soul to another person. Something that takes more than love it takes trust. When we trust someone when we love someone we open ourselves to be hurt. It is human nature to unintenally hurt the one you love. The question is, is that love, that i would die for you love worth the pain that you might endure??? To me it is the love of life i would die for
2006-07-17 10:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by asking4trouble2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is much like the following question:
"Other than that, how did you enjoy the play Mrs. Lincoln?"
2006-07-17 09:44:30 · answer #10 · answered by rightonrighton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋