Following from earlier Q... How on earth can a woman say a guy who batters her loves her and how can she love?

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Following from earlier Q... How on earth can a woman say a guy who batters her loves her and how can she love .


This makes no logical sense.


I am only attracted to girls that would make a good friends, ie into the same stuff and lots of fun and also sexy so want to make out and touch them up and get touched back.

While I can understand a girl being scared of a bully my mind can't comprehend why you would develop feelings for one.


If someone is a bully I hate them, or part of a bully organisation... I would want to cripple, disfigure or kill them... never love them...

So why do girls not stab anyone who tries to abuse them (I dont mean a fight or lovers tiff, but someon who brutalises them).


If scared why not wait till they aere asleep then slit their throat. If any ppolice have a problem with that, not to give up but do them to and any threat life form who intends to hurt you as anyone who would wan to hurt you would be clearly evil. Not human

So why love them, and why think its your fault...


Makes no logical sense...


Nore would allowing your self to bee taken in for whats right, eleiminating hurter life forms...

Answer 1

that is something i could never understand either where is the love in being beating black and blue and fearing for your life

Answer 2

A woman in a relationship with a man who batters her, has usually had time with that man befor the abuse started. She has built up a relationship with that man long befor the abuse starts. The abuse usually starts with something small, that he and her can brush off. Slowly but surely her confidence will go, and many woman become dependent on the man, so much so that the woman finds it hard to leave.
You question how can a woman love a man like that, the answer is that she probably doesnt, but thinks she does, as by this time her confidence is at an all time low, and she is feeling vulnerable and confused, but not yet reached to her lowest. Only when she has reached the lowest point is there usually a breakthrough. A lot of woman stay also in abusive relationships because of the fear of change, and the fear of being alone and surviving alone, usually with children in tow.

Answer 3

It is amazing how women are drawn to a certain type of fella time and time again. I have seen it so many times. But I get great pleasure in confronting these men when they are alone, they are not so brave then, especially when I met my father for the first time when i became a man, But thats another story.
My grandmother always said that a man who hits a woman is a coward and not a real man and will never hit another man.
So true

Answer 4

First, alot of women who are battered have little or no self-esteem to start with. Second, most men who batter don't start out battering. They start out charming...and when they've got the woman 'hooked' into believing they're wonderful, they slowly start to undermine what little self-esteem she has. Since, up until this point, he's been charming, the woman actually believes she must be doing something wrong...because he's charming. And it usually doesn't start out physical..it starts out with emotional or verbal battering.

The favorite male phrase seems to be..when caught being verbally mean..is: "I was only joking...you need to lighten up".

The woman is gradually isolated from friends and family. Because he loves her soooo much, he wants her to spend all her time with him.

Women actually have murdered abusive spouses and boyfriends, and ended up on death row for it. Or in prison for life. We seem to cut men more slack when they batter or murder a girlfriend/wife for cheating than we do for women who have had the crap kicked out of them for years and suddenly snap.

Answer 5

i knew a women who killed her husband as he used to batter her all the time she stabbed him to death it ruined her life she became an alcoholic she is now dead due to this but everybody who knew him were disgusted because " he wouldn't do anything like that" she didn't recieve a prison sentence but she still lived a life sentence as her kids always treated her differently because she killed there dad and they were to young to realise what had happened she is in a better place now not living with the guilt of what she did when all she was doing was protecting herself once your in it hard to get out !

Answer 6

i like even as adult adult males have attitudes like that. notwithstanding, it is going both techniques. some women do not savour superb adult adult males. some adult adult males stop appreciating superb women even as they have been burned by using terrible women.