My kids were taken when his sister was diagnosed as being "failure to thrive" she is 2. There are 4 kids in all, and the 7 year old is the oldest. I have tried explaining what happened and told him it's not his fault. The soical workers want to label him as a bad kid, but he has been through a lot, and has been in 4 homes, one 50 miles away, and 3 schools! He was close to his baby brother and they were sperated and sent in different homes. The plan is for reunification, but until then, he is very angry inside and he cries a lot. I so worried about him. Child protective services did not invistigate deep enough and when this came out in court, they still wouldn't return the kids right away, but opted to put my 7 year old an d his baby brother iwth my parents for temp placement, and the other two will follow soon.. Any suggestions until then?
2006-07-17 09:12:43 · 8 answers · asked by Nyema 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
your son is probably very confused and frustrated, it will take time for him to heal from this. i think the best thing to do is show him lots of love and make your home as stable as possible. maybe even go to a family counselor to help him get through this. he will get better but it will take time.
2006-07-17 10:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by krystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a legal battle, you need lots of love to help your son.
The same system that took him away can give you help with finding counseling for him. There are several state programs available.
If you don't want to deal with state services, call around to all of the family counseling centers in your area. If money is an issue, ask them about discounted services. Many centers will only charge you a fraction of their fees if you qualify.
Good luck to you, Mom.
2006-07-17 09:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by long_ebony_locs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got not dealt with that yet, our oldest basically became 4. My husband and that i've got been basically speaking approximately this in the present day nonetheless. i might basically clarify that "now and back human beings love one yet another, and that's ok. Male/male, woman/woman...it does not lead them to any distinctive." i in my opinion do no longer accept as true with the thought universal, yet am totally accepting of it. My husband feels the comparable, and we agree it terrific to easily clarify that "human beings would be who they choose to be." It does not lead them to undesirable, or something like that, maximum are very respectable good human beings. that's problematic to attempt to locate the "precise" words....yet thats rather plenty the begginning of what we've desperate to declare. I actually do no longer choose to maintain it secret from the youngsters, or sway an opinion, so picking words heavily is fundamental. i do no longer understand how I discovered approximately it the two, my mothers and fathers not at all stated it until eventually after i might already discovered...and that they are no longer accepting of the belief in any respect. So i think I discovered from television or some thing...i could no longer inform you. we would desire to be those to grant our youngsters that information nonetheless, determining "while" to do it is the priority lol. G'success, it is deffinately a comfortable concern.
2016-10-08 00:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE don't feel any more guilt.there are no bad child. ask him to start writing a couple things he wants to do the next day.start doing them.rebuild his ;1.AM AT HOME. even if its small walks and talks. keep going to court. i had my daughters children.and i had her here 12 hours a day to be with her children. and when i went in front of the judge [ she said help rebuild this family ] two weeks later she had them home. i still go to schools,parks,check for bruises .and no body baby sits my grand baby's but me. some times 2-3 times a day. just keep believing. read the whole prayer.god grant me the courage to change the things i can change..........the serenity to accept those i can not change.....and the wisdom to know the difference.....BUT GOD grant me the courage Not to give up on what I Think is Right even though i think it is HOPELESS................Good luck.grandma
2006-07-17 09:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by tysgrandma99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he blames you for having been in the CPS system, you should probably find a therapist who's specialty is dealing with children. In particular children with behavorial problems or attatchment problems. A child psychologist may be able to gain more insight into what's bothering him, and may be able to help him express his feelings in a more healthy way. Otherwise, time and some stability will probably help too.
2006-07-17 09:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by April C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what you mean by rebellious, The child need reasurance and love, if his behaviour is an issue you need to have firm but fair bounderes, ie when you say no don't let his reaction make you change your mind. Good behaviour should be rewarded ie if he has had a good week take him to the cinema if not don't and stick to it. hope this helps.
2006-07-17 09:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by Bas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have your parents call and make an appointment to see a therapist.
2006-07-17 09:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you need a good attorney....
2006-07-17 09:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by cross_countryjumper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋