Why do folks keep asking me WHEN I'm gonna have kids???

Question

I don't want kids...I don't like kids...
WHY ARE THEY ON MY CASE
TO HAVE KIDS???

I forgot to mention...I've been married for 3 years now and HE doens't want kids either...we love the ability to save money and travel. But family & friends for some reason think we 'should' have kids...not everybody wants to live a life of h*ll do they?

Answer 1

I agree..its nobody's business what you and your husband want to do with your lives......

To you having kids is a life of hell.....(maybe thats what your parents thought of you)...but to others having children is a blessing...thats why people cant seem to understand why you a perfectly normal married couple does not want to have children..

most people do not like anyone who is different from the "norm" which is why they pester you to death......all you can do is ignore them and just laugh why you go on another cruise vacation.....

i just hope your husband got a vasectomy and you got your tubes tied..just so there wont be any "mistakes"..i mean why kill a child when you can prevent getting pregnant from the beginning....dont rely on birth control ..life sometimes plays cruel jokes...

Hey at least your honest with yourself..many people who have children should really NOT be having children..its so many idiots and reckless people popping out babies there really should be a law against it.....

Answer 2

I totally know what you mean. I got married at 19 and it seemed like right away people started asking me when we were going to start a family. My husband and I have been telling people all along that we just wanted to enjoy each other, and that it was going to be a long time before we started a family, I mean come on we're only 19. ( well now I'm 20 and it turns out I'm seven weeks pregnant - oops! ) Now I have to go back and eat my words! Oh well, I'm actually pretty excited to have this baby!

Answer 3

First I have to ask if you are married. If not then it isn't fair to the child to have one. ........ If you are married then there is more than you to consider, there is your spouse. ...... But the big thing of concern is this. If you don't want them and don't like them then it is better if you don't have them. Children aren't for everyone.

I have a friend I work with who is in her mid 60s now. She felt the same way about kids as you do. Even tho she married she never had any and made sure she wouldn't. Like she says to me, I don't hate them, I just don't like them or want any and never did. She led th e kind of life she liked and did a lot of things as well as travel the world.

If you don't want them don't have any. Don't worry about what others have to say or what they think. IT is your choice not theirs.

Why are people always on your case about it? IT is simple. People judge the likes and dislikes of others by what they like or dislike. They just forget we are all different and all have the right to make our own choices whether they like it or not. Not only that they believe because it means a lot to them it will mean a lot to you. They want to pull you into their enjoyment of children.

Answer 4

Most people want to have kids, or end up having kids. Women, especially, tend to focus on this quite a bit. There's a point in many people's lives after which they are entirely focused on the children they have, the children they've raised, or the children they want to have.

People who want kids are like people who enjoy chocolate; they can't possibly imagine why anyone wouldn't feel the way that they do, it's just natural for them. Often times they don't even ask if you want kids - they ask WHEN you'll have kids.

For the rest of us who aren't interested in raising little ones, or who want to put it off indefinitely, it's necessary just to tolerate it. It typically helps for you to explain that you're quite certain that you don't want kids and never will, but thanks for asking anyway.

Answer 5

In life, in order for proof of existence, you need to leave something behind that only you have created. These things can be Artwork, inventions, poems, movies, theory or thought and children. Once you are gone, what proof is there that you existed. Pictures can be made up, the paintings subject can be false. Only the painter is known. So in someway when people asks you if you are having children, they are wondering what are you leaving behind to prove you exists. They must think that you are such a special person, you have to leave something behind. Its a compliment. Imagine if people were hoping you didn't have any kids.

Answer 6

I think that is just how it goes.... When I was young and single, people would ask, are you dating anyone?

Then I started seeing someone they asked, When are you getting married?

Then I married him, They asked, When are you going to have kids...... I told my mother in law after some years of being married, that her son was too much like having a kid. : )

Now I'm divorced needless to say.... I'm back to being asked, Are you dating anyone?

Answer 7

Soo when are we gonna have kids.?? We can start today if you like...HAHAHA.....

Well tell them its none ofthere business ya know..or comeback sarcasticlly and say when hell freezes over. or ask them when they want kids. throw it back in ther face ..without being mean about it..
And they are on ur case cus they think you might want to someday then it will be too late for you.

Answer 8

their lives and energies are sucked up by kids and they want the same misery for you. It's the same with, "When you are you getting married?" Just another example of people pushing their values onto others.

Answer 9

who knows but thay should respect u for being honest adn addmitting that u dont want kids and dont like kids... but if its ur parents well thats normal for them to harras u about that cause thay probably want grand kids are u an only child or do u have brothers or sisters?

Answer 10

If you're married that's what people assume that you'll be having children at some point. If you're single it could be due to your age. Just tell them it's none of their business.