She found out by seeing the scars and is kind of angry with me. She keeps on asking me why and I dont know what to say. What should I tell her? Nobody else knows and its really hard.
2006-07-17 08:25:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You do not have to tell her anything. But, cutting behaviors are fairly common among teenagers and young women, especially if they have been a victim of abuse. Some women tend to use it as a maladaptive means at attempting to feel because feeling empty feels worse than pain. Others would like to attempt suicide but are not sure if they can do it, so the cutting amounts to practice. There are other reason to, and whatever your reason is, you should find a psychologist to help you overcome whatever problems are leading you to this behavior. Chances are you are young enough that you can overcome this problem before you develop more serious mental health problems. Please look for a psychologist in your area using the services I have listed below. When looking for a psychologist, you want one who has a doctoral degree (e.g., Ph.D. or Psy.D.). You also want one who graduated from an APA accredited University and who specializes in a type of therapy called cognitive behavioral therapy (or CBT for short). Good luck.
2006-07-17 09:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by Ph_D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I think emotions are hard to explain. When someone else cares for you of course they don't want you to do something to hurt yourself.
It seems like when I was lost in my emotions, I didn't know how to express myself or how to figure out in my mind what was going on. All i knew is that i hurt alot inside. I wanted to understand why I felt trapped inside. I wasn't having alot of self respect. The feeling of what i did almost gave it a resolution in a very strange way.
That's the only way I can put it into words. Hope that somewhat helps. Take care, glad you have a good friend.
2006-07-17 15:33:54 · answer #2 · answered by Cara B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need help if you are still cutting yourself. I would guess that you did it because you needed to feel in control of something or to take your mind off of something. Only you know the reason you cut yourself, so we really can't help much with explaining it to your friend. However, she doesn't have a right to be angry with you. She should be concerned/worried but not angry.
2006-07-17 15:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a symptom of Borderline Personality Disorder. You really need to see a psychiatrist. It can get bad and 10 years from now, you'll have horrible scarring.
2006-07-17 23:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by pdubie2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well why do you do it? Most studies seem to suggest it is a way of externalizing the pain and giving you some control, however it is not a long term solution nor a healthy affection. It is recommended that you find some sort of professional help from either your school or a local health office
2006-07-17 15:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by barhud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting yourself is not a good thing. I know that some people do it to feel like they are still alive, or to release anger - but it's not mentally healthy. I would really recommend that you start seeing a counselor you trust that can help you through this. It sounds like you have alot of underlying issues as to why you are doing this. Your friend is asking because she cares - I'm sure alot of people care about you and do not want to see you do this to yourself. Please get help.
2006-07-17 15:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by Foo Foo Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain it in as much detail as you can, be truthful, you might find that confiding in a friend could be the help you need. Remember its nothing to be ashamed of or hide but you do need help and it is available.
Good luck
2006-07-17 15:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by enigma_variation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easier if you do it over email or something not face-to-face talking. Tell her what as little or as much as you want her to know, depending on how much you trust her. If you want specifics on what to say, I guess just tell your friend its because you don't know what else to do (as best as I can assess your situation anyway).
2006-07-17 15:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by Artful.Dodger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shut your friend up by seeing a psychiatrist. What you are doing is not healthy and can cause problems for your skin (not the least of which is infection or blood poisoning).
2006-07-17 15:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by zharantan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i no exactly how u feel i cut myself because i feel that its the only outlet for me i feel pain somewere else my friends got so ticked off at me wen they saw my arms it made me feel worse and i needed to feel pain somewere else its like an outlet but its not healthy jus tell them u need help and if tey care they would help u insted of makein u feel worse
2006-07-17 15:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by danlyn2510 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋