Are you scared of being a parent?

Question

Getting married is one obstacle. What abt being a parent? Will you follow your own parents footsteps in raising yr own kid?

Answer 1

No, I will definately not follow my parents footsteps in raising children!!! I am a single mother of two young children, and it still scares the hell out of me. But, I'm taking it one day at a time, and going to college to better our lives. My kids will NEVER grow up like I had to. So, I'm pretty much winging it....but I'm doing a damn good job.

Answer 2

Hi! There are two sides on one coin. So, it's the same with everything. It's important to weight the pros nd cons first before even taking your leap into doing something because you may end up hurting not only yourself but also other people who may be innocent to the situations. many of the situations which takes place in this world are acutally man-made. Situations could be created due to carelessness, selfishness, self-centredness, wrong decisions made, wrong motives, wrong actions, impatience, aggressiveness, impulsiveness, anger, jealousy, etc. The listed are the "seeds" of many consequences in mankind. It could be created by ourselves, other people, environment, etc. but most of the time are avoidable. So in life, it is a matter of choice and what will the result be depends totally on our own mindset and actions. Similarly, you may choose to remain single or to be married and to have a child or not unless God decided that you should not have then that will be another story. Let's assuming that you have the choice and are in the midst of making your choice and decision; what should be the correct thing to do will be to mete out the pros & cons first and "what ifs". Discuss them openly with whoever that is/are or will be in the picture of the intended things to take place, encourage them to speak from the bottom of their heart and accept whatever they have put across frankly because what's in their mind will be in their mind and it'll be tough to change their thoughts if they do not want to. Analyse the whole situation and draw out a situational forecast with what you have gathered and clearly understood. No presumption because it's never accurate. Draw out your own conclusion, give it a careful thought and choose the wisest course of action. Only you will know what's best suited for yourself and your situation because there are many things which are "more than meets the eyes". Be honest with yourself and decide what you really want without forgetting what the others (those who will be or are involved) have made clear to you and work things through. You are, in fact, the best advisor. If you are not, no one is! Take care! Just a little sharing.......

Answer 3

hopefully you apply what you have learned through the years. It is not an easy thing to be a parent. So many influences come from every direction. It is also the most rewarding thing you can do. I have raised my daughter alone from the time she was 2. She is 17 now. Of course, between a single dad and a teen daughter, the house is never clean :)

Answer 4

Of cos, i will be afraid to be a parent. I will be worry abt them alot but i will not follow my parents footsteps.

Answer 5

I think you and your husband/partner might follow some of the same teachings your parents taught you but you will develop some of your own rules and teachings also. Some things I will defintely do the same as my parents but there are some things I will do very differently.

Answer 6

i was at first but i'm not any more my baby is good ( well i think she is) but for the most part the hard thing is getting up all hours of the night. just do what is best for your baby and ask questions but you have the final say when it comes to your baby!!

Answer 7

im petrafide to treat my boys like my mom treated my brothers i just have to remember im not a drill sargent i am a loving mother and think about what i do befor i do it