Me & my Bf of almost a year always fight for stupid crap, what should we do to stop this? What helps?

Answer 1

My wife and I have been married 2.5 years and are still doing it. Good luck! If you come up with an answer, please let me know.

I try to talk through problems on the spot... that just makes her more mad though... she's the kind that needs to go slam a door and cool off. Everyone's different though. :)

Answer 2

first of all-- it'll get better, i promise. my boyfriend of a year and 8 months used to be JUST like that-- and we still are @ times, but it's gotten a lot better.

first of all, you two really need to sit down and talk about how irritating you think it is that you guys fight over stupid crap all the time, chances are-- he feels the same way. you guys should really discuss it and then TOGETHER make an effort to stop. sometimes, the stresses throughout the day are brought home and it's usually stupid crap that sets it off and starts fights.

if that sounds familiar too you-- try to please each other when one comes home from work. maybe rub his back for him or something and he can do the same for you-- just little things for each other that will relax one another and keep each other calm.

but yeah like i said-- just really talk too him about it and be totally serious. let him know that all this fighting you is worrying/scaring you and you really want to resolve it together and keep this relationship alive and wonderful.

i hope this helped! good luck sweetie!

Answer 3

Dating someone else, you two dont' get along and sometimes thats just the way it goes. Why are you still together if you have spent the last year fighting over stupid crap? Do you want to spend the next year fighting over stupid crap? How much of your life are you willing to waste on that? Time is the one thing you can never get back so spend it wisely.

Answer 4

When you even forget why you were arguing its not worth staying together, you're just comfortable with the ideocyncracies of your boyfriend and thinking that's settle down material. Hold out until you get from him what you "would" be willing to give. Hold back, I can't stress that enough to you ladies, you would get so much more respect, love and tenderness if you made the man work for your affections rather than throwing a fastball right into his mit.

Let him salivate for a change. Y'all start sliding out of your seat and the next thing out your mouth is "I can't take it, take it to the next level. When he's thumping your brains out you're saying, "He doesn't take me out anymore." After the kids come, "Why aren't we married?" Then when you're both sick of looking at one another you say, "I don't know why we can't get along."

Because you didn't hold back. They can't regulate themselves, you throw something hot in their direction and they want it all, they don't know how to use discernment.

Those that do, you'll never meet, so take my advice - take it slow.

Answer 5

this wont last, u guys spend more time fighting than anything, realize that time spent fighting can never come back. Quit fighting and learn to walk away,

Answer 6

i thought i was the only one who did that! we do all the time, all i know is that i love him and he loves me, thats why we fight. and u know a few fights make a healthy relationship.

Answer 7

think if u cant live w/o him then stop this .....thats how im trying to get over it..fightings not worth it

Answer 8

take some time apart before he cheats on you. my boyfriend did the same thing and one day he told me he was seeing some girl. and this bi*ch was huge!! and 25 i think with a kids. it ruined our relationship......take some time from each other it will help alot. to re-assess your feelings and stuff.

Answer 9

Time apart.

Answer 10

break up things aren't going to change if you and him don't work on the relationship