People shun you if you think you look good. They call you a snob for even saying you think you look alright! I used to like how I looked. But ever since going to school-- I've learned that self esteem would be a bad thing. Why would it be? Is there something wrong with loving yourself? (it is a bit late for me to like myself again... but I want to know why all these beautiful people say they're ugly!)
2006-07-17 08:18:15 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
They are talking about what they look on the inside.
2006-07-17 08:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, healthy self esteem is certainly about loving yourself, and in doing so inviting or inspiring others to do the same. Vanity is a little different. The way "you looked" shouldn't be all you like about yourself, the way you feel about your Self should be. I'm sure you've not lost the love you have for yourself, by some careless remarks. Just have respect for others, and love for others as well, and not because of their appearance only. That can be most decieving.
2006-07-17 08:30:34 · answer #2 · answered by paradox69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two types of self-esteem.
1. The real self-esteem (aka "self-respect"). Those who have true self-esteem know their value, but are also realistic about themselves. They will not be trodden upon, but will also give way if someone confronts them on a wrong they've done.
2. The societal "self-esteem." This self-esteem is often labeled by society on those who love themselves too much and have no self-respect. Generally, these are the people who know they are beautiful and/or successful and are snobbish.
In all, a person with true self-esteem is the person who treats himself well, but is also respectful of others. This doesn't make the person perfect by any means, however. Also, the person with false self-esteem is generally unreachable by any means and proud. They often exhibit dangerous behaviors such as sexual promiscuity, drug or alcohol addictions. Possibly other things, also.
2006-07-17 09:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends...people may sometime not like feeling small in front of you when you continue displaying your merits..they may think its immodest even when you know that you are just referring to yourself in a honest unbiased way..
there is nothing wrong with self esteem..but mind the way it is practiced..it is a quality of mind and not tongue that matters..you KNOW you are beautiful,really then its sufficient...m not against voicing your qualities but remember you have ultimately to live with these people only..either you adapt yourself or remain unhappy..its up to you..
choose wisely
2006-07-17 08:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by infinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's because you're talking about it.
try thinking you're fabulous and keeping quiet about it.
you can love yourself but rubbing it in the face of others is bad manners.
2006-07-17 08:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋