my ex is sending clear, but mixed messages. He tells me to leave him alone, and he doesn't want to be with me. Yet he replies to my emails, and text messages. As well as Last week he came down to see me. He said it was for closure, but he's still talking to me as I am writting this. I don't know how much to push it to get back with him. I love him with everything I am. I feel like I have said everything I can say to try to get him back, and he's very adimit on us being apart as the right thing, yet talks to me almost every day since we've been apart for one month......? please help.
2006-07-17 08:15:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would try not sending him text messages or emails or calling him...then see what happens. If he initiates the conversation then you might have something to go on.
2006-07-17 08:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by hipchic_inhiding 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that u are still hung up on him and HE is extremely confused about what he is going throuh emotionally. He seems to be the child that doesn't know what to let go off i.e. he wants to have the pie and eat it as well.
YOU need to be the dominating factor here. You need to be the adult and take a stand. After all that you have said - if he still does not want to be together then the message is very clear - YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN! But if he keeps messaging and stuff then you also need to react as a 'friend'. This relationship of yours is no longer going anywhere and the quicker you get your '****' together and move on - the better it will be.
2006-07-17 15:22:29 · answer #2 · answered by Big Mac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wonderful!! Both of you should be able to remain friends. I've been divorced for quite a few years now and I am with someone else, however my EX and I are the best of friends. There is nothing I would not do for him and him I. My fiancee is quite a guy also and he understands the relationship I have with my EX.
To go back to your question, If I were you I would just take it easy and be friends with him for awhile (if you can) and see where it leads you. Who knows, maybe in 6 month, a year or so you both will figure it out.Take Care
2006-07-17 15:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by sam04m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not really sure how the situation stands, but remember - just because he talks to you, it does not mean he wants to get back together with you, and just because you have broken up, does not mean he has to never talk to you again. There is such a thing as a 'friendly' break up, and maybe that is what he is working towards.
2006-07-17 15:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by HP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry if this sounds harsh but he either wants you or he wants you as his back-up. Think about it, it's nice to know that while you're out having fun, there's still someone there for you even if the new prospective lady doesn't work out; thus a back-up.
2006-07-17 15:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get it through your head...he doesn't want to be with you. just because he talks to you it doesn't mean that he wants you back and is sending mixed messages. he probably just doesn't want to leave you all at once.
2006-07-17 15:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut off all communication with him. If he keeps coming back, then you need to tell him to quit playing with your emotions....you're worth more than that!
2006-07-17 15:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by Love4Life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he really wants you back but trying to see just hou much you love him.if he returns your call and messagees that simple means that he still have feelings for you give him a little time to come around.i suggest that you keep on trying.GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-17 15:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by babo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave him alone and move on
2006-07-17 15:19:59 · answer #9 · answered by kissie623 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLUG YOUR EARS. QUIT EMAILING HIM AND QUIT TEXTING HIM. MOVE ON.
2006-07-17 15:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋