I am so afraid of being hurt! My heart has been broken too many times :( I was abandoned emotionally and physically by my parents and also repeatedly molested by other family members. I have also been raped and assaulted as an adult. I find that men have been very mean to me and I am just about to give up on finding a soulmate in exchange for solitude. I am that scared. Scared enough to choose loneliness over intimate companionship. I want love but I am very frightened to take the chance of being hurt again as I am sure I will be devistated. Please reply in a thoughtful manner as hurtful and/or childish responses are not useful. Thank you for your kindness :)
2006-07-17 08:10:25 · 8 answers · asked by Sereny 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Omg! Hun! I can so relate to you! I was in foster care from the age 9 all the way till I was 18. My dad aboandned me and my mother was abusive... I was raped and abused so many ways its crazy! I have learned to grow and not dwell on the past! I was so scared to get imto a relationship and be vulnerable! But I did and I am with a guy that does nothing but treat me right! I am going to tell you hun that if you ever need to talk to me Im me or something! Take care and please talk!
2006-07-21 08:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by Ashton's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry that u had 2 go through all that pain,but the fact that you can talk about it inspires me of all that emotional strength u have within you.Life cant guarantee you that all will be perfect,but with hope,faith & an urge 2 be happy you will find a true man who will be willing 2 respect you,accept your past & LOVE YOU.Forget Fear Follow Feelings
2006-07-17 15:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually we are attracted to the same kind of people and we keep having the same results.
you need o change your habits and look toward men in a different setting or the type you usually don't give a chance to.
learn from your hurt and learn the things and traits you don't like and avoid those type of people.
being hurt is part of life and its a learning experience. tread carefully
i wish you the best don't give up on love, the right person is out there for you
big hug for you
2006-07-17 15:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by eaglerock60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Build a wall just for yourself to retreat to if things go badly. Go ahead with a relation ship. Let your partner tear down that wall one brick at a time, as you begin to trust him. I know what you are going through' as a boy growing up I to have been molested, humiliated, harassed and mentally abused.The wall that you build will always be there and no one will be able to tear down completely. You need some kind of safe haven.
2006-07-17 15:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by big T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear about you bad life experiences, but don't give up on love! I do believe there is someone for everyone, but focus on just loving yourself for now. When you least expect it - the one that's for you will come into your life and you won't have a problem with intimacy because it will just "feel" right...God Bless!
2006-07-17 15:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by Love4Life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Now thats a question.Sorry but don't think there is an easy answer you just have to take that chance of being hurt.It sucks I know but what else can you do?
Best of luck Marty D Belfast
2006-07-17 15:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by marty d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry that life so far has been harsh for you but i congratulate you on nt using your past experiences against men.Find yourself a good God-fearing man,a christian for it never hurt to pray about it but u shouldnt expect him to ans you if u dont believe in him and give him the praise and glory that he deserves.Ask,for whatever it may be,and he will give it to you!god bless you!i care...
2006-07-17 15:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by kareen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have any (girl) friends that you trust? if so , mabye thay can try and set you up. if they know you well enough, thay know u r afraid they will do thier best to help u
ps where do u live?
pps thatis abusive contact someone with athority. grandparents?
2006-07-17 15:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by tinkerbell2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋