Is it really bad for me to hate my Great-grandmother for being old?

Question

I can't stand the way she talks with an old fashioned accent.. I can't stand the way she walks so slow.. I can't stand the way she's always complaning about how she can't see and how bad her back hurts. I hate the old lady clothes she wears...

Whenever she talks to me I give her a short answer and try to act like I can't hear her. For some reason I cannot stand my 92 year old great-grandmother.

Does anybody else have this same problem?

well... I don't really HATE her.. but she annoys me a lot! I'm sorry.. I should've thought before I put that I hate her... I guess I'm just extremely annoyed.

Answer 1

I understand your feelings. When people get that age they usually have all sorts of health problems, both physical & mental. And we have to stop & think...they are no longer out in the world on a daily basis as we are. Most of their time is spent at home & pretty much confined. They don't have the daily interactions that we do. So they tend to dwell on their past which is what they usually talk about the most. And even though it's hard ...we must always try to see things from their prespective. How would we feel if it were us in their shoes. And while I know she may do & say things that often annoy you, she will not be here forever so try to learn from her experiences & past. Maybe you could ask her specific questions...like her first boyfriend...what she used to do with her friends when she was your age...you know, things she will enjoy talking about. You may discover you actually like some things she has to say. Or maybe you could try doing something together you would both enjoy. Maybe baking or a craft...something she can physically do. But just cherish the time you have with her. Good Luck & God Bless!

Answer 2

Wow ... 92 years old. ! She was born in 1914. She is a walking, talking living history book. I would love to spend a few hours with this dear old gal and listen to her life experiences. You are so fortunate to have some one like this and so foolish not to realize it. You could learn so much. When she is walking slowly, put your arm around her for support. If she can't see very well, read to her. At 92 shopping is likely a difficult ordeal for her so shop for her and buy her some nice things to wear. And most important of all every morning give her a gentle hug and a kiss on the cheek and tell her you love her.

Answer 3

This is the ignorance of youth, not the wisdom experience. People go through stages in their life. Maybe right now your great grand mothers deformities disgust you. Take this as a lesson in learning to love. You don't really hate your great grandmother, you are just maybe questioning things now.

Life can only go forward, never back wards. It might be ten years, fifteen years or 2 months. But someday she will be gone. Enjoy her now while she is here. Do you realize that in 15 years you will be looking at some cousin of yours who will be asking you what your great grandmother was like?

I suggest really getting to know her as a person. Get a voice recorder. Come up with a bunch of questions and interview her. Tell her is a school project! Ask her about her childhood, what she liked to eat, about her siblings, her parents, where she grew up, about friends. Ask her about what she thought about world war 2 and the invention of television. Ask what it was like living through the depression. Ask her what she likes and dislikes about being 92 and what she thinks some of her best life lessons were. Ask her how she evaluates friends, how she makes them and if she has enemies. Just listen and learn. Someday you will be really glad you did this.

I could be wrong, but I think you really don't hate your great grandmother, you are just going through something. Ask God to forgive you for thinking such bad things. Ask God to give you the strenght to see past her weaknesses and to love her.

Answer 4

Umm..are you serious? If so, in answering your question, yes it is really bad. Leviticus 19:32 says, " Before gray hair you should rise up, and you must show consideration for for the person of an old man(or woman)..." Show some respect and try to get to know who your great grandmother was before she had physical limitations due to old age. It will tell you a lot about where you came from and who you will become.

Answer 5

Maybe you're just embarrassed with her and so you can't bring a friend over or a girl. Let me just tell you that just because they are old that doesn't mean that they don't understand you... you could try to be kind to her and see how she'd respond, and about bringing your friends over, many of us have seen old people, many even like them. It's true, when people reach an age and they can't get out of the house as they used to, they can get pretty annoying as anyone would, It's harder for them then it is for you, pets help. Still maybe the problem is not her, maybe it's you, maybe you don't get out much and that's why she annoys you so much. I understand you perfectly, it's not an easy problem to solve... My advice is try not to act like she doesn't exist, ask her opinion in any problems, ask her for advice and she will listen, try to listen to her too. I wish you good luck!

Answer 6

Well, my great-grandmother does have things that just make me cringe: She gives me peanut butter twice a week, because she always picks it up for me when she's shopping.

But really, she can't help being old. ;) Great-grandmothers are different than grandmothers in the way that they have ACCEPTED that they are old and are fine with that. They talk about when they were younger, walk slowly, talk about things that they did when they were "your age".

But come on, now. They are usually very nice people and it's sometimes fun to hear what they have to say about when they were little - you'd be surprised how exciting they were! (Mine eloped. Who knew? o_0)

And if all else fails; humor her. She loves you very much. <3

Answer 7

Well in a society where youth is glamorized and old people are just kept alive and shoved aside by their own family, because they have to work half to death to the detriment of family and sanity for money and... hopefully, when they're all done they will have worked for some sense of security...

(which we no longer have, thanks to George W. Who I am sure will never know of, or see first hand the conditions, halls or rooms of a nursing home.) Due to the fact that thanks to the current state of Gas prices, he and his Dick will be well compensated and taken care of, should the government ever allow either of them to get sick or die...

With an ill-funded education system that sucks and has in turn sucked a belief in morality and God right out from our nations heart and future (Our youth) Can you honestly expect this little girl to feel any other way about her Great-grandmother?

Other nations are taught from birth to respect the wisdom and the lives of those who have carried them and their genes through history to their own present, and taught and guided them into becomming a proper catalyist for their own future through example, wisdom, experience and belief.

Those days are dead and gone in the grand ole US of A. And because of it... We have no future, no past and a present filled with attitudes and mind-sets, like her's,
wars and disasters
and nursing homes filled to capicity with people who are dying but kept alive, by pharmaceutical companies to feed the greed of the medical machine... What is the sense in putting an old woman into an unfamiliar enviorment, taking away her possessions that she and her husband worked a life time to aquire and squeezing a life that lasted 90 some odd years through 3 or 4 world wars and all the changes we could live through... and as soon as she mentiones that she is depressed over it... They prescribe Prozac and vitamins on a monthly continuim @ over $10.00 per PILL!

And don't try and tell me that's not true because I spent years as a worker bee to that very machine so I do know...

Honestly... This little girl is not wrong. She is a victim of her own conditions... As are we all.

How can we honestly expect any better...

Answer 8

I dont want to be rude or anything.You just have a problem with yourself in the sence of you need to stop looking for faults on her because you r apparently not happy with yourself.Please start to appreciate her for who she is and rather try to understand her better cause one day she wont b there anymore and then you will become sad!!!Instead of saying she walks to slow help her around,dont say you cant hear her cause she makes time for you and rather sit still and listen to what she has to say cause you will learn from it...yes she cant see so make a plan like in buying her the right glasses from a optometrist.Make time for her it will be alot better for the both of you and most important LEARN TO RESPECT THE ELDER PEOPLE AND GET SOME PATIENS!!!!!Get n grip on yourself please!!!

Answer 9

You are a very fortunate person for having a great grandmother still alive. What is your problem? Why don't you at least try to talk with her! I wish my great grandmother was still here. I miss her so very much. Remember, someday you will be in her shoes and would you want people treating you this way?

Answer 10

Maybe some people like you that don't understand that age is as hard for them as it is for you. They need you more than ever. They once were there for you and still they are they love you no matter what. Please try to understand them a little bit better I try to make those last years you might have with her the best one. Those are good memories you have way she's not around anymore. PLUS VERE IMPORTANT YOU"LL LIKE TO BE TREATED THEM SAME WAY WHEN YOU GET OLD? Think about that. Treat people the way to will like to be treated.