2006-07-17 07:53:45 · 21 answers · asked by tooclose2theedge21 1 in Pets ➔ Dogs
Thanks so much for all your responses. Im afraid to directly say anything to him yet as it only happened four days ago and I am afraid he is not ready yet and I don't want to hear a no answer. I just thought he would be the one to want one right away, turns out I am wrong. All your responses are so nice, thanks so much!
2006-07-17 08:22:37 · update #1
Appears you're in the same situation I once was when my beloved dog died a few years ago. I grieved terribly and the thought of having another dog just hadn't even crossed my mind when my wife brought home a puppy. It turned out to be one of the best things she ever did for me. My grieving was soon overtaken by my concern for our new puppy's welfare. Your fiance may be in the same mind state I was, although you don't indicate as such in your question. I don't think you'll seem cold hearted or unfeeling if you think you're ready for new loved one to care for already. On the contrary, I laud your self-awareness and your courage. Do check with local pet shelters or go to Petfinder.org for a new dog. There are homeless dogs aplenty just hoping for a stay of execution and needing a good home.
2006-07-17 08:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about the loss of your dog, first of all.
And to answer your question, if it were me, I'd just flat out say it..."Honey, I want another dog."
He may say no, but this is a great opportunity to discuss WHY he said no...he may need some time to grieve for the pet you just lost.
Your best bet is to make sure, in no uncertain terms, that you're both on the same page. As you well know, a dog is a lot of work. A new puppy is a TON of work. Make sure you're both ready to give the time and work to a new dog.
Good luck!
2006-07-17 08:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a breeder of Lhasa Apsos who does limited breeding of one litter every two years. Many people hate the void that is left when their beloved "Buffy" is put to sleep, and often come to me wanting an older dog, and occasionally a puppy. (I often have older, retired show champions for sale who make wonderful pets, as they are already well-trained and house broken. What more could you want?) Try telling your fiance that you miss having Buffy around, and that your heart is ready to welcome a new member of the family into the home. Also, be prepared to wait a little while, in case your fiance isn't ready for that yet. Make the process of bringing home your new dog something that you do together, and make sure that the decision is one you BOTH agree on and are ready for. Good luck.
My most sincerest condolences on the loss of your pet.
2006-07-17 08:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by little_beth85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to drop hints? Why don't you just talk it over with him and both come to a decision about when & what type of dog.
This isn't just your decision. He has to be allowed to grieve for the dog, his way. He may not be ready for another dog. You have to respect that, that is a partnership.
When you are both ready, you can move forward on getting another dog.
Learn to talk to your future husband. It will save a lot of troubles in the years ahead.
2006-07-17 08:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by momma dog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... I would make sure to really think it over first. If you are getting married soon you may be too busy to take on another dog, with all the training involved. If you are sure about it, ask to stop at a shelter when you are driving together..."Just to look". Or go to Petfinder.org and just mention that a certain dog looks really cute. Maybe he'll start looking with you! Keep in mind that his heart may take longer to heal and he may not be ready, no matter how "tough" he acts!
2006-07-17 08:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So SORRY for your lost, to answer your question,If you have pictures of your dog that you had to put down then whenever fiance is around you just let them see you with the picture and do not say anything unless they do. JUST LOOK @ PICTURE EVERY CHANCE YOU GET AROUND THEM, If it were me and you were doing this around me I would just either go ahead and get another dog for ya or ask you if you think you may be ready for another PET. HOPE IT WORKS OUT BECAUSE THIS IS THE BEST WAY TO GET OVER YOUR SADNESS/LOST.
2006-07-17 08:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by sweettoni37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just tell him, people always seem to think that when you loose a dog you don't want another one but I feel the total opposite. When my puppy died of a heart condition the house felt empty and I got a new one very soon after. I felt better and it helped me deal with the loss better.
2006-07-17 08:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by swoosh1_04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't beat around the bush on the issue. However be
sure to discuss the issue with him due to the fact that
he might not be ready to get another pet yet.
Communication is the key.
2006-07-17 07:58:22 · answer #8 · answered by jrhughes3068 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him. It has been almost 3 years since we had to put our dog to sleep. I really want another one now. I am determined to adopt from our local shelter. Maybe you could wait til after the wedding/honeymoon so you wont have to leave it behind.
2006-07-17 08:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by mom of 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry about your recent loss of your dog, we had our beloved Peke put to sleep three years ago, and waited probably too long to get another dog.....now we have an adorable minidoxie named HONEYBUN sharon from oHIo
2006-07-17 07:57:02 · answer #10 · answered by smileyfish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋