Girls!! why do women dress and act sexy but whine that guys drool over them? or just plain hate sex?

Question

My GF is very attractive and dresses sexy and wears makeup ect ect..Im pretty sure she is not cheating, we have been together for years. But she has always been a bit of a cold fish. I have no problem with this... but what I don't get is how she dresses like this and puts on the makeup but complains about the attention she gets ..I tell her she looks nice and she gets mad.. this has gotten worse over the last year..she was never like this before..is she mental?

Answer 1

interesting question- my bf asked me something similar last week. so, here it is: girls feel conditioned to dress and look a particular way. psychological studies have even shown that attractive women have it easier in our world and have high positive response rates from employers to infants (!) So, with all of the social messaging out there telling us how to dress (and this is applied to men as well) we might comply, but THIS DOES NOT mean that we want to get down and dirty all the time. I catch myself getting annoyed at men staring at me, but I look a certain way and maybe I 'ask for it.' So do you see the double bind of oppression here? If women don't look hot all the time, they feel like they're less important, but if they do look hot all the time they feel the pressures of sex, promiscuity, and gender role stereotypes. Try telling your gf that she's beautiful WITHOUT makeup and WITHOUT the sexy clothing. Start there and make her feel comfortable with natural herself before you comment on her COSTUME!!! She feels guilty about looking sexy because she probably isn't that comfortable with herself. You guys think the whistling and cat calling is what we're looking for -- girls like to be noticed, but for god's sake BE MORE SUBTLE about it. When men respond loudly or forcefully to a woman she can feel violated or like a sex object, when her originally intention was to look nice and feminine. Subtlety is key, don't speak to a woman like she's an animal.

Answer 2

i think she's waiting for you to say something as soon she puts something on. sounds like she's tired of hearing other people say something before you do. she maybe needs your constant approval and maybe she's got a feeling your looking in the other direction also. i used to wear makeup and dress up but my husband kept telling me i dont need all that stuff to try and look pretty when im naturally pretty, of course he tells me this i deny it and it gets him upset because he's trying to compliment me and i always say " you're lying...". after awhile i dont care what anybody says i am pretty...=) never suggest your girlfriend is mental, it makes the matter worst.