do i give him another chance to win me back?

Question

my boyfriend broke up with me because he didnt know what he wanted. now, a week and a half later, he calls me up telling me he loves me and that he made a mistake breaking up with me...and i told him that i could just hear him say it anymore...that i needed proof...he asked me for another chance and i told him that he had a week and a half to prove to me that he wanted me back...did i do the right thing?

Answer 1

No. One of the strangest statistics to come out of divorce cases is that people--no matter how they try--always remarry exactly the same type of person as they found so displeasing as a marriage partner--and that--no matter how they try--they never change themselves to adjust to a new one. Thus, the second, third and fourth divorces are always on the same grounds and for the same reasons.

You sound very young from the details and thus, are still forming your personality. My advice is for you to break off this relationship and find a different kind of guy from a totally different background and setting and start over. It's your life, you know! And no one else has a claim on it.

Answer 2

I'll probably see this as a little more complicated than others do, but then again i usually do. Whether or not you did the right thing depends on several factors, like what exactly is 'proof' of love? is your idea of proof and his the same thing? love is not something that can be 'proven' with any single act or a week of being nice, love means continually treating someone with respect, and thats not what you've got. not to mention, what you said is all you have to do is act like a descent guy for a week and a half and i will swallow that lock, stock and barrel, then you can go back to doing whatever you want! at least thats what a guy would hear.

secondly, do you like being a doormat? you teach people how to treat you and what you have taught this guy is, i can walk away from her, break her heart, go screw around for a while then go crawling back and as long as i say the right WORDS, she'll fall for it. his ACTIONS do NOT reflect love by any definition of the word. talk is cheap and oh so easy to do, its actions that speak the truth. he has shown you who he is and you are setting yourself up to go through it again. you are looking for proof? you already have proof!!! its just not proof of what you want the truth to be so you are ignoring it. that gets a lot of women in trouble.

come on what did he really say here? he said you weren't quit good enough, he said he really thought he could do better, he said he isn't completely content with you and the relationship you have.....so what is the question? do you really want to be with someone that you KNOW will always be looking over your head because he might spot something better? what did he do with that week and a half? try to get the one he thought was better? that didn't work out so now he'll settle for you? i guess if you don't mind being second best thats ok, but if you want someone that thinks YOU are the very best this isn't the guy for you.

good life lessons: actions speak louder than words

believe what you see when someone shows you their true character (not who they can pretend to be on a good day)

don't let the 'idea' of what you want a thing to be taint your view of what a thing really is!

i realize none of this is what you 'want' to hear but it is the truth, do as you will with it and good luck! i can promise this guy will absolutely hurt and disappoint you again.

Answer 3

It depends.........how much do you care for this man? Do you care enough to give him another chance? Or would it be in YOUR best interest to move on? These are questions that you have to ask yourself. You really dont know if he will say that to you again.....so it is a question that you have to sould search for yourself. Do you take him back and receive a wonderful man in your life that will love and take care of you for always? Or do you take a man back and become more and more in love with him and then get your heart broke when he tells you he just didnt make the right decision and wants to leave again? Or should you move on with your life? You and only you must make that large decision..........Take some time for some soul searching of your own you never know you may find some startling discoveries.

Answer 4

Listen, if he broke up with you then miraculously in a week and a half he realized "hey I love her"...no... there's no way that in a week in a half he completely turned around and realized that he loves you. It would take longer than that to realize something like that. Most likely it is a rash decision and he'll end up breaking your heart again.

Answer 5

You have to look inside yourself to know if you want him back. No matter what he does to supposedly win you back if your not feeling it now you won't later. People make mistakes, because just like you everyone wants whats best for themselves. A relationship is about communication and trust. Just make sure he's open about why he left and that for whatever it was it's no longer an issue.

Answer 6

NO!!! girl men like this are completely self centered, the man broke up with you and now he wants you back, because he cant find another girl to depend on, if he in constantly complaining and depending on u to fix his every problem I say kick him to the curb.
If he don't even know what he wants how do you know he wont
do it again?

Answer 7

Yes, you did the right thing because if he wants you back, he'll have to prove to you that he's trustworthy... because he didn't just break up with you... he broke the trust that you had in him, about being there with you & for you.

Answer 8

Not sure about a week and a half (where did you get the number?) why not a month, why not a week or two weeks... It is up to you though.... But you did a right thing:) Good luck!

Answer 9

relatively, the terrific danger for an American to win a Grand Slam championship lies in the recent breed of yankee gamers-Donald youthful or Sam Querrey. regrettably, i think of Roddick's activity has substitute into to predictable alongside with James Blake's video games. i do no longer understand in the event that they are able to get from now on effective as tennis gamers, meaning they have maximized their potentials. in case you seem at Nadal, Djokovic, or Federer they seem to continuously be making differences of their activity and recuperating components that are susceptible. i do no longer see that with Roddick in any respect, and to a definite quantity its additionally genuine of Blake. They continuously do the comparable factor, and all the different gamers understand this. they're going to choose various success with the intention to ever have a brilliant gamble at a Grand Slam. even nonetheless, i in my opinion like Donald youthful as a youthful expertise. I see various capacity nevertheless in his activity, and that i like the certainty he's this variety of large mover. He nevertheless has some artwork to do, yet he does have a brilliant gamble. With Sam its all approximately his wellbeing and circulate. He has a good serve and floor strokes, yet his height is a draw back to him in his circulate. He could artwork problematic to no longer make this a criminal accountability. i like a sort of two youthful skills to ultimately leap out and make a run at a Grand Slam championship. despite occurred to the days of Sampras and Agassi?

Answer 10

yes, you did the right thing. he was the one who broke up with you, and less than two weeks later he wants you back?! he's very very confused, so he better give you a good reason to take him back