My kid will not compromise. When she is upset the whole house knows about it b/c she is yelling from the top of her lungs. Any words from the parents/baby-sitters would be helpful. Am I spoiling her by giving her my attention when she cries
2006-07-17 07:29:17 · 9 answers · asked by smallbear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is 10 mths old. Its really tough b/c her mom loves her so much and doesnt want to see her hurt. I'm a second time parent and she is a first time parent. Thanks for your support.
2006-07-17 07:52:15 · update #1
How old is she? If she is under six months, her crying may indicate she needs something. Infants have few needs...food, cleaning, proper climate control, etc.
If she is older, make sure her needs are addressed. After that, let her scream. We have three and only one was a screamer, but it was awful. It took her about three weeks to get to a point where she realized it was not an effective means of communicating.
2006-07-17 07:32:06 · answer #1 · answered by bigtony615 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give in when she cries b/c she will always do that. I actually saw a 10 year old have a fit in WalMart the other day. Her parents had to literally drag her out of the store. Do you want that someday? If you spoil her all the time it will just get worse.
2006-07-17 07:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by smalltownangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are teaching her to cry when you give her attention. The rule of thumb in all human interaction, but especially when parenting is: "Ignore the behaviour you don't want and attend to the behaviour you do want". This is often difficult and/or tricky to do, but if you find a way to do it, changes will come about quickly (within a week with child attention seeking). Good look and be creative!
2006-07-17 07:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by seeker100 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends on her age. If she's an infant, I would leave her alone for about 10 or 15 minutes and let her try to "work it out" on her own. If she's a toddler or younger child, I would send her to her room & tell her that she can come out when she's done pitching her fit. This worked for my 3 kids. If she's older - like a teenager - I would ground her & get her some counseling! Good luck!
2006-07-17 07:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by Kat_Christ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to answer this is to know how old your daughter is. There are different ways of coping with this behavior depending on the age of your child.
Be calm, give her attention, but don't necessarily give in to her demands. Talk to your pediatrician for advice on behavior help with children of certain ages.
2006-07-17 07:36:50 · answer #5 · answered by AlloAllo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you spank her, she will stop doing that. She is thriving on your attention. The more you give her, the worse she will get. If you want your child to do something, tell her then if she doesn't do it, tell her that you are going to give her a spanking and if she still refuses, then spank her. Eventually, she will the picture that you mean business. Why is she crying? Is she crying to get her way or does something hurt? You may want to find out why she is crying and then go from there.
2006-07-17 07:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either slap her... lol or send her to her room and do not pay her any attention.
2006-07-17 07:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by tst1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you need to learn to not let her have what she want
2006-07-17 07:43:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm... i'm not a parent, sorry
2006-07-17 07:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋