Why do girls stay with abusive partners?

Question

Why on earth do woemn stay with guys who batter them.


I don't mean fair fight lovers tiff then kissing each other better.


But abusing them, beating them up, raping them etc...


I don't get this illogical behavour especailly as its mainsly though not always girls who blet this occure...


Why dont the boot they guy out, bet him arrested, battered by friends to see how he likes it, they do self defence, or warm his bed up with petrol wilst he sleeps?

Answer 1

love is blind hope you are not in one

Answer 2

There are different reasons. Some are in love with the guys and fool themselves into believing that they brought the battering on themselves. Some believe that the guy is showing them how much he cares about them by "straightening them out" whenever they "get out of line". Some are scared to death of their partners. Some believe whole heartedly that marriage is for life no matter what and that since they made their bed they should then sleep in it as they say. Sometimes the woman's faily encourages hr to stay with their men for the same reason that marriage is forever. Many times the woman feels that she couldn't make it on her own without him to provide or that they have nowhere to run to or get help from. These are the big reasons. There really are many. It all depends on the situation.

Answer 3

In my case i stayed in an abusive marriage for 3 yrs. My main reason was because i was too scared to leave as i knew my partner would follow me where ever i went and would probably do more than just beat me. It probably sounds silly but most women don't even realise there is a problem, if they have never had a relationship before they get the idea that being beaten is a normal everyday thing that happens to alot of women but also men.

Answer 4

the reason for this is that the b*stards that do this more often than not use mental cruelty as will as psyical abuse, buy doing this they knock down the womans confidence and makes her feel that she cant get anybody else of which they can if they had the strength to stand up for themselves.
I have had to deal with this matter twice in my life with my sister and sister in law who both had abusive partners and thankfully they are now out of the scene. more should be done about this matter and i think there should be some for of registar so these f*ckers cant get away with it anymore, truth be told they only treat women like that because they are too p*ssy to treat a bloke that way. If you know of someone thats being abused in this way then give them all the support you can. End Rant....Good luck.

Answer 5

Because they love the people........... I guess that is not a good reason to stay with some one that would abuse you or even think to do that to you especially if they say that they love you what type of stuff is that? But if that was me I would have been in jail for shooting that person 4reals because I don't put up with any thing like that and I never will people think I'm crazy but you can think what you want because that's you but why would you stay 4reals be honest do you guys like being in that kind of situation? If you didn't realize yet your only hurting yourself your not hurting him at all.But really that doesn't make any since at all.

Answer 6

i think there is many different answers love, being scared, having nothing else to go to. ppl do alot of thing that are stupid if they could just see that they are better off but the abusive partner is going to try to make sure they don't go anywhere some times by any means they say that there are more women killed by lovers husbands and bf every day then anything else when some one has a low selfasteam if some one pays attention to them they will latch on and not want to let go no matter how bad it is hope it helps

Answer 7

Why women stay in an abusive courting is with the help of the fact the guy that abuses then continuously says their sorry and the different forgives them until eventually it happens back. Then the abused individual in many circumstances has infants and doesnt understand the place to circulate together with her infants. No money ,nowhere to stay.. The abuser in many circumstances stalks them and could abuse them even while no longer residing with them.. maximum circumstances if its the ladies it is abused is with the help of the fact their afraid of the hubby.some circumstances they dont tell family participants via fact their embarrassed. maximum circumstances their basically no longer good adequate to go away with out somebody assisting them.. in the previous days women couldnt circulate via fact there became into no money like welfare money for 9 weeks. Its distinctive now..

Answer 8

:\ for many reasons and i'm not in a battered relationship...

sometimes it's hard to leave someone you " love"
sometimes you think they'll change and they won't
sometimes you depend on them for money and living
sometimes they don't have support from family and friends and sometimes it's just embarrasing telling someone about it
they could have been treated the same with their parents when they were small so they' are probably used to getting a beating. it's really sad. many women don't have support .. they should start running commercials about it and homes they can go to for help. very sad but you have to understand that it's all psychological damage that they're getting also and "love" shrews with your mind. I know better than to be in a relationship like that..my mom has spoken to me wisely and i've listened but yea.. it's just sad i know. Try to help someone you know instead of judging them not that you are or anything like that.. i'm just saying :P

Answer 9

Believe it or not, some women, some people, are addicted to abuse. It's a little complicated, and there are a number of causes for it, but, in a nut shell, they somehow view the attacks as having attention focused on them. Usually, these people are starved for attention, and don't care about what form it comes in. My mother was, is, that way. My father was verbally abusive, demeaning and humiliating, and I could never figure out, as a kid, why mom stayed with him. But, after I was older, and learned a little about the disorder, I began to notice that mother was never happier than after one of dad's tirades. It's strange, but it exists in people.

Answer 10

Its all easier said than done I'm afraid. Some Women still Love their partners despite them being so abusive, Love conquers all.

Also some women are too scared to leave, their frightened of being found and what would happen to them if they were found, some women think that if they stay it will never be as bad as what would happen to them should they leave.

Answer 11

They probably stay because they have either been
1) Threatened (If they made an attempt to leave)
2) Seriously desperate (Think they would'nt survive w/o them)
3) Scared
Watch Madea's Family Reunion and you'll understand