In marriage we forgive and the lord said to "forgive and love them" and he said to forgive our brother 70 x 70. But if its the same thing over and over and I forgive seems the world gets mad at me. Family,, friends etc.. am I doing this wrong?
2006-07-17 07:27:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sorry.. Domestic violence and alcoholism. I have forgiven him, taken him back about 7 times now. Promises never to drink again each time.
2006-07-17 07:36:52 · update #1
Forgiveness does not mean staying in a position of allowing whatever the wrong is, to continue happening.
If you allow the wrong to continue happening, that person can never repent, because they are allowed, or tempted to continue repeating the same sin.
Not sure of the exact situation that you are speaking of, but here is a little example and the biblical solution to it.
Suppose you are in an abusive situation. You can forgive your abuser,but if you stay in the situation, you "tempt" your abuser to continue the abuse. You give them no reason to repent and turn away from their own sin(weakness).
The bible states to get away from the situation, Not to divorce, because you cannot remarry anyway. By getting away from the situation, you give the sinner no way to continue the sin against you and your forgiveness can begin.
Of course if the sin is different each time, then yes, you forgive each sin as it happens and in a one flesh marriage, he does the same. When its one sided, life is more than difficult, downright almost impossible.
2006-07-17 07:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by cindy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between forgiving and being an enabler. If you forgive the same discretion over and over and stay around to take the abuse you are enabling the person to continue to abuse you. Forgive in the spectral sence and move on with your life. You are the master of your experience here on earth and time spent being abused over and over in the same way is a redundant waste of time. Learn the lesson and move on .
2006-07-17 14:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you need to forgive. How many times did Peter deny Christ and he was forgiven. But also what's the problem in your marriage? God doesn't want us to be with someone abusive or cheating on us. Marriage isn't easy. Another thing, you can't tell family about problems if you're willing to work them out with your spouse. God gives the offended grace to forgive, but not those who will take up your offenses. Email me if you need any advise. God bless
2006-07-17 14:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by thisisme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should forgive. But the duty to forgive does not include any duty to condone or tolerate this continued behavior. You also must not enable this person to continue this conduct. If you forgive and nothing more, you have only done half of what you must do. After forgiving, you must try to get some help for this person........an AA program, or counseling, or even put him out of your house if he continues this disgusting disrespect. Love, cherachi..
2006-07-17 14:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i too have problems with that forgiveness thing but God said so. This life is not menat to be fun but to serve the Lord. Anyways i would get away from any person who hurts me...i would forgive but not forget.
2006-07-17 14:52:25 · answer #5 · answered by likeskansas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness does not always mean absolution of all responsibility.
Forgiveness is something you do internally. You do not want to be an enabler or let people walk all over you
2006-07-17 14:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by TLJaguar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he hit you?? Are you afraid for your life?? You can forgive him and not be around him. You are not to be abused. God doesn't expect a woman to be a punching bag. If god changes him then maybe you can work it out, does he Know the Lord?
2006-07-17 15:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by Godsgirl2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not because you are doing exactly what the word of god says to do. because if you should do the opposite and not forgive then god wont forgive you. no matter what your family things just keep forgivivng him because that is the right thing to do.
2006-07-17 14:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by God Is Love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its 70 times 7 but any way its your life but I think if you have to keep forgiving the same mistack then your partner has no respect for you if he will not try and change
2006-07-17 14:31:28 · answer #9 · answered by Mim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a limit to forgiving for the same thing
2006-07-17 14:34:48 · answer #10 · answered by rosie w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋