last friday...I posted the question about my daughter indicating to me that a little boy at her daycare had been touching her. I took her to the doctor that me, and all though there was no physical trauma, it was in my doctors opinion that it did occour.
I notified the facility. They said that CPS had toget involved..which they do...but they keep trying to scare me by saying CPS is going to look at you...CPS is coming to your house...CPS is going to think it is suspcious if you change daycares.....
I have never delt with CPS, although my living arangement is sorta strange (I live with my parents, my brother and his girlfriend (who share a room), I think that we provide a very nurturing home environment....what should I expect?
My daughter is very smart and is very adament that this is happening at school, by a certain boy.....and I believe her, but why is the daycare trying to scare me? I was greeted at the door by their lawyer today, wholet me now CPS was coming for me....
2006-07-17 07:09:48 · 9 answers · asked by cookies_n_cream0218 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It sounds like a scare tactic. At the most CPS will come to your home to question you about what had happen and to talk to your daughter. As another person suggested get yourself a family law lawyer.
Unless the center has been feeding CPS lies (i.e. you are abusing your little girl) you are not under investigation. The center is for letting that go on.
CPS will come by and talk with you. Make sure that you let them have the contact information from the doctor who believes your daughter was touched.
CPS will not think it is suspicous if you change day cares. It is not against the law to change day cares if you feel that by her being there your daughter comes to harm. Personally I think it would look funny if you continue to let your daughter go there.
Disenroll your child from that day care. Get a lawyer and if the lawyers from the day care (they are trying to save their own butts) attempt to talk to you again inform them if they have anything to say to you that they are to speak to your lawyer. At this point I would hand them your lawyer's card and walk away. Now if they wish to speak to you they will have to go through your lawyer (make sure the lawyer is always present when dealing with them) and they can not resort to intimidation.
2006-07-17 07:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just take breath and remember they are there to help you. Their number one goal is to keep a fmaily intact. The daycare just doesn't want CPS invovled because they could lose their license. DOn't let them bully you. I would tell CPS what tthey're saying to you. Use CPS as an ally instead of thinking of them as an enemy. As long as there are no drugs involved and the abuse is not coming from your home then you're fine. I would just be careful in one aspect and thats to be prepared for the daycare to call CPS on you and make fraudulent claims against you as a parent. You also need to go to the police. If they do make claims about you then CPS is required by law to investigate but if they're untrue then CPS will know that. They know what a "bad" parent looks like.
2006-07-17 14:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
They'll more than likely come talk to you and the child. The HAVE to interview you. Doensn't mean they are going to come 'AFTER' you though. It's part of the investigation. At least you took the steps to take her to the doctor and all. You have a right to change daycare no matter what --- that would be called "protecting your daughter" -- it would be more suspcicious if you thought she was being violated there and kept her there.
2006-07-17 14:17:16 · answer #3 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the daycare is trying to put a scare on you. you should put out a complaint against them...the daycare should be registered with the state and tell the regulating agency all the details (that includes the grimey lawyer) and stop at nothing to protect your daughter. go to the police also and look elsewhere for daycare. show them how serious you are.
2006-07-19 04:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by xgoldeniisx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are they gonna look at you??? Your daughter is not the one they should be after! Why isn't going to be suspicious? If you change facilities is because you're gonna look for what's best for your daughter! Why don't they go around the parents of that kid?? Or investigate the facility to see if how good the take care of kids!!! Why do trouble always come to the victims and not to the ones making it??? This is ridiculous! And don't let them scare cuz you know what?? you're not the one that molested the little girl (your daughter) If any problem, they should come after that kid's mom, not you!!!! DON'T LET THEM SCARE YOU!! YOU HAVE NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF!!!
2006-07-17 14:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Lis♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to get a lawyer too? I never delt with them either but they may be trying to scare you, but if you believe your daughter, and small children usually don't come up with something like this without it happening, I would not give in and say oh well. Protect your children!
2006-07-17 14:16:48 · answer #6 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be going to their door with a police officer and or a lawyer...once CPS does their investigation if you say what is true the day care can loose their license to operate,,I'm thinking they just want to protect themselves.i feel for you and wish you the best of luck
2006-07-17 14:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by nas88car300 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared you did nothing wrong, you are a good mother right? So let them come all they want, you'll be fine
2006-07-17 14:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are trying to protect the schools intergity. dont take her back to that school find a new one. in the meantime get someone else to watch her
2006-07-17 14:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋