Is "i just want to break up" enough? Even if you dont have a beeter reason.
2006-07-17 07:06:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been on the recieving end of that and it's horrible!!! I couldn't do it to someone else.
It's a matter of respect to be able to give someone a reason, but sometimes its a good thing to start out "i can't be with you anymore" or "I want us to break up, this isn't working" and allow them to ask for a reason if they need one. Most people will ask, but it's not always polite to come right out and tell the person why.
For example, my last boyfriend was rather immature and it got worse as time went by. When we split I told him point blank that I couldn't be with him anymore. He asked why, then I told him that I felt that I needed to find someone more mature and less jealous and controling. (needless to say he didn't take that too well) It was more polite than saying "You're a posessive, immature control-freak. We're through." but it also gave him the oportunity to ask what went wrong so that he could apply the knowledge in future relationships.
On the other hand if the problem is personal to you, say you've found someone else or you are bored in the relationship or you're looking for a more adventurous partner, make sure that you tell them point blank that it is your problem, not theirs!!! It is not right to let someone go over and over what they've done trying to figure out where they went wrong in a relationship when the problem wasn't really their's in a first place.
Either way, make it clear that them changing won't change your mind. (unless of course it will) because a lot of people will do almost anything to hold onto someone that they think that they love.
2006-07-17 07:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by nobodysangel_nobodysfool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could but that's really insensitive. you should want to give a reason b/c then it's easier for the other person to have closure. when you are the person being "dumped" no matter how gently you are let down you are going to ask yourself "what did i do?" "what's wrong with me?" "why doesn't he/she like me?". you are going to feel a little insecure. if you give a reason, that person will have something to reflect on, so if you say "you're too controlling" or something at least they know so they can work on it.
2006-07-17 07:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously there is some reason or you wouldn't be breaking up. Tell her the truth, unless it is really mean. Maybe just tell her you aren't ready for a relationship or something. Women like closure, just remember that.
2006-07-17 07:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by Mustang L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just wrong, you will keep her wondering why you broke up with her. At least think of some kind of reason. Is it because you want to see other people or just you want time to your self don't be afraid and just come out and tell her. Don't leave her thinking she did something wrong if she didn't.
2006-07-17 07:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by Sara M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not always possible to give a reason. That may too heart breaking. So silence is the best way out.
2006-07-17 07:12:56 · answer #5 · answered by Pramod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a reason, otherwise you won't be breaking up with her.
2006-07-17 07:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by Karmen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give the reason why and be done with it
2006-07-17 07:14:29 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyes12181@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, you gotta have a reason. think about it, there must be something...
2006-07-17 07:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be kind. don't hurt their feelings.
say you want to be by yourself.
2006-07-17 07:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST SAY "IS NOT YOU, ITS ME" LOL
2006-07-17 07:24:26 · answer #10 · answered by ROCKSTAR*CHICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋