my girlfriends birthday is coming up and i wanted to buy her something nice. i like to buy presents but she gets annoyed at me. should i just go buy her something anyway. (was thinking a PSP)
any reason as to why she wont except gifts from me?
2006-07-17 06:51:58 · 20 answers · asked by lan f 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Holy cow! You're buying her a PSP?! That could be part of the problem about the gift-giving. Perhaps you're getting her things that are much too expensive and she feels uncomfortable taking such a pricey gift from you. There could also be the fact that she may not be able to reciprocate with such lavish gifts, and thus feels guilty for accepting them.
Why don't you try spending the day with her instead? Take her out to lunch and go get your nails done or have a facial together. If you guys aren't into that, then why don't you find something you both like to do, and spend the day doing that. She'll probably appreciate spending the time with you more than the gift.
If you still feel like getting her a gift, get her something small, some chocolate, or some lotion, lip gloss, etc. If she's a gamer, then get her an accessory for her gaming system, or a t-shirt with her favorite game logo on it. Find something small that's means something to her. The personal sentiment will go much much farther than spending extravagant amounts of money on her.
2006-07-17 06:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by bibliophile_1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people (like me) don't like accepting gifts because they feel bad for taking. I am more of a giving person. Sometimes they feel as though you need the money and should spend it on something more useful, but I think that if you put much thought into it, you should get the gift any way. Rip up the reciept and tell her oh, you have to keep it. LOL. By the way, I have a PSP and bought one for my mom a couple of months ago. It's a good buy. It has internet and you can store, music, music videos, and it's just great to have.
2006-07-17 06:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by prinsaysovdarkness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure if it is her birthday she would actually love a gift. However sometimes it is hard to accept gifts if you know you cant return one. Maybe she feels like you buy her things and she can't or doesn't have the money to buy you things. Maybe you could keep your gift simple, cheap and from the heart to make her feel more comfortable. Like bake her a cake and decorate it yourself instead of spending $300 in a PSP
2006-07-17 06:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgurllexi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, getting a gift is weird. I've never gotten many gifts, so when I get one it's like "wow, thank you!!!". My boyfriend wants to get me things and I want things but I don't want to admit that I want something, so I just say no cause it's weird. Like when we pass by a jewerly store in the mall and he asks me if I want to try on a ring (promise ring), and I really want to, but I feel like I'm too desperate or somethign so I don't.
For me, I love giving gifts. If I had more money I'd buy all my friends and family and especially my boyfriend things all the time. It makes me feel so good giving people things that came from the heart.
2006-07-17 06:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get her something anyways. Whether it is taking her out to dinner or buying an actual gift. I know I hate it when my boyfriend buys me things because I feel like it's a " you do for me I do for you" type of relationship and I dont' want that. Although, a birthday he better buy me something for! get her something smaller though.
2006-07-17 06:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just "givers". Some are embarrassed by the attention. Some feel they have to return a gift. Some feel guilty taking gifts, feeling obligated to the giver. Many reasons.
2006-07-17 06:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by Sequinne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a gift places us in the position of being in obligation. Some folks don't like that. I love giving friends gifts as it deepens our friendship. Why not try saying to her that it means a lot to you if she would just let you do it. Then everyone wins.
2006-07-17 06:56:12 · answer #7 · answered by welcome_to_how_things_will_be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not really in to you. She feels that accepting a gift from you is obligating her, when in fact she likely wants to dump you.
Stop making these kind of mistakes! Get to Leykis 101 and learn the mind of women.
2006-07-17 07:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by Jolly1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have problem not to except Gifts from others......
2006-07-17 07:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by Ashish M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people don't like to accept gifts because they don't want any more crappy stuff.
but mostly, it's because they don't want to have to give a gift back to you. Even if you say "you don't need to give me a gift", you secretly are expecting to get a gift back.
2006-07-17 06:54:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋