My friend (From schooldays) has caused a really big row with her family. Because she's saved herself for her husband to be, she insists not only her to be in white but Tony and all the guests to be in white. That could be 30 people. I think that's asking too much. I've heard of people not wanting children at the wedding service and top hats and tails but...Tony and her are barely speaking or the families.
2006-07-17 06:37:45 · 40 answers · asked by poppy vox 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Tell her to spend a little on the wedding, and a lot on the honeymoon.
2006-07-17 06:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
It sounds a lot that your school friend is a bit on the spoilt side and has to get her own way in everything or she will stamp her feet and scream. Perhaps someone should bravely point out to her she is unreasonable a little bit.
Off course it is the brides big day and her bridal party will look great in white to complement her dress.
The parents of both the bride and groom and their wedding guests are part and parcel of her big day as well but their dress apparel should be of their own choosing.
Is your friend a perfectionist - and has this wedding fever took over her imagination and life completely. A complete wedding party with parents and guests dressed in white is OTT. [over the top] Perhaps as a gesture of good will each could wear a white flower to keep the peace.
A marriage - any relationship based on love will only work if compromise, caring and sharing are hand in hand.
Give and take gently does it and love covers a multitude of sins [faults]
2006-07-17 07:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by jean811823 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The day definitely belongs to the bride and the groom. I've heard of people having these weddings before where they ask all of the guests to dress in white. I guess I understand where she's coming from but I think it's really a little odd to dictate what the guests are wearing. My guess is that people will not all wear white anyways...but who knows. Some brides want to do that, and maybe she's willing to have less people attend if it means that the people who do will be wearing white.
If you have a huge problem with it you could let her know that you won't be wearing white, or let her know that you won't be coming to the wedding, but I think that you should go ahead and let her do what she wants. I assume that her fiance agreed to this, and it is their day.
2006-07-17 06:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if she wants to request that the guests wear white as well, and the fiance is ok with it, why the heck not? It's not traditional, but it can't hurt to ask. She should just be aware that most men do not own white pants, and many women do not own completely white dresses, so she can't get upset if it's not exactly how she pictured - unless she buys appropriate clothes for everyone.
People have 'costume' weddings where the guests are requested to wear renaissance clothes, halloween costumes, heck, even Star Trek uniforms - a 'white wedding' doesn't seem too difficult for the guests to adhere to.
They'll also have to be very careful about the wedding. People are going to be angry if they *do* wear white, but then are served things with red sauce, are forced to sit outside on dirty chairs, or aren't treated respectfully. If they make the effort to 'dress up', she needs to make sure to have good food & drinks for them - to pay back the effort they have made.
2006-07-17 07:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The day belongs to both the bride and the groom, not just the bride herself. Not to mention all the family members that will be there and friends and such. Your friend needs to calm down a bit and think of everyone else, not just what she wants or desires. She has to make compromises too, not only for the wedding, but afterwards, when her new life with her husband begins.
2006-07-17 06:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by Maico 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great she has saved herself, so if she wants to wear white she should. However, the day belongs to her husband to be as well and his views should be respected. Anyone else should respect the bride's wishes, but if it were me, I'd want to wear white to stand out, I'd actually think it rude if a guest wore white to a wedding. She needs to get some perspective and think about the marriage not the wedding.
2006-07-17 07:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by Tefi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see the bride and groom in white but making all of the guest wear white is a little crazy to me. I for one wouldn't go to her wedding if I was told what I had to wear. I really think she should compromise a little bit to keep everyone happy so her special day isn't ruined by something so trivial. It is wonderful that she has saved herself for marriage but it is no bodies business but hers.
2006-07-17 06:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by littlebec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is being a little too demanding. Although I do not think the rest of the family and friends should have say so...atleast the bride AND THE GROOM should be happy with it. The other people can change right after though. So I would think that if this is what they BOTH want then they should be more cooperative.
2006-07-17 06:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. Expecting everyone to dress in white (or any specific color) is asking quite a bit. She may not realize that these people may need to go out and spend money on an outfit just to wear for her wedding for one day. Unless she is offering to pay herself, she shouldn't make this sort of demand. It may also put some people off from even attending the wedding. Personally, I probably wouldn't go... and if I did, I'd mention something in the wedding card about how my gift to them was showing up in white. :-)
2006-07-17 06:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could see small request like no kids under a certain age or wanting the brides maids to have the same dresses and shoes but beyond that your head is just blown up way to big for your own good. great she did not have sex until she was married that is a great choice tell her to rent a hot air ballon and putr the message all over town but telling people what they can and can't wear to your wedding as guests is insaine!
2006-07-17 06:44:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should select white for the bride and groom, and dress the wedding party including the parents in white. Then tell guests and suggest that they all wear white. WITH ENOUGH NOTICE, they should all be able to comply or decide not to come. Perhaps she should say, "in lieu of gifts, the couple respectfully requests that all guests wear as much white as possible."
2006-07-17 06:43:56 · answer #11 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋