2006-07-17 06:06:00 · 17 answers · asked by Crooks Gap 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hell, no. But my teen sure thinks she has it all together. She reminds me most every day that she is out of high school and will be in college soon and can do whatever she wants and there is nothing I can do about it. I just try to hang on and keep my head in the game. I pull about 95% of the punches I could throw at her vitriolic disrespect. But I love her desperately and would gladly do anything for her. I would lay down my life for her tonight if required, and consider myself lucky for having been her father for 18 years and given my life to save hers.
Man, what a jumbled up mess of emotions this girl has made me. On her senior prom night, I was awe struck with her amazing beauty .. and could see in her face every moment of her life from birth to 6 months to one year to forever ... then there she is standing in front of me looking so much like a woman that I couldn't have ever prepared for that moment. Being her father is the most amazing thing that could have ever happened to me. Just an hour ago she hung up the phone and said "I love you daddy." Maybe she is mature enough to handle the world on her own ... I'm totally lost.
2006-07-17 16:12:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
A gagillion answers and all over the board. Of course there are some mature teenagers who are capable of getting a job and funcioning in the world on there own. There are many adults who will NEVER mature enough to do that. Neither an arbitrary age or piece of paper can make that determination.
I WILL say this. A High School diploma does say that the person has been able to stick it out, regardless of the work, attitudes and apparent irrelevancy of some of the courses. Whether because of their own will power, or thanks to help or pressure from family, they were able to stand there, on the stage and receive that document.
It says a lot. Employers will tell you that a diploma has a bit more weight than a GED. Social skills are learned in school that some high school dropouts miss.
2006-07-17 13:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by Vince M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. I was the most responsible and level headed guy I knew, and I was not ready to handle the world on my own until I was in my mid twenties. Even after men can make relatively sane choices in their mid 20's, they do not reach complete maturity until they are between 30 - 33. I didn't realize that until I was over 30, because I thought I knew everything when I was age 25. Looking back at some of the stupid decisions I made actually makes me cringe now. I'm lucky I'm not bankrupt, dead, or a combination of both.
2006-07-17 13:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by bluesea112 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but they can be prepared gradually for real world responsibilities by parents allowing them to take on adult resposibilities in small steps under their (parents) guidance, such as managing a budget (probably the hardest thing for them to learn), balancing a checkbook, living within their means, not expecting to graduate from high school and instantly attain the things it's taken adults 20 years to work for, etc.
In education, when we teach children a new skill, we use a process called scaffolding. In the beginning, you give them lots of support and help, then gradually teaching them the steps involved, you decrease your level of support and increase their responsibility to do the task or skill. This works good with young adults, too. We want them to be successful, not fall flat on their face when we suddenly cut the apron strings.
2006-07-17 13:14:43 · answer #4 · answered by cindy1323 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they've been raised with good morals, well-rounded views of the world, common sense, and they're considerate, then yes, they're all ready. Though, home and family are still as important as ever.
2006-07-17 13:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by scastro114 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not perfectly, but then nobody's perfect. I think they can manage pretty well, and they can always ask for help if they want it. I started college at age 15, and I was on my own. It worked out fine.
2006-07-17 13:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by Larry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the state of the educational today they can't read or write. Why do you think the country is so screwed up. We have raised a bunch of dummies.
2006-07-17 13:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not really I didn't grow up until I was about 24 and I'm 36 now!
2006-07-17 14:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by cocoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God NO! ARe you kidding! That will not happen for another good 10 years.
2006-07-17 13:09:14 · answer #9 · answered by Henn L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They better be, because parents now a days don't help wise um up.
2006-07-17 13:12:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋