Do you think it's wrong that my MIL never sees her grandson?

Question

I have had some past with my MIL. A month ago, I had a "situation" where my mother had said a few things to his mother and every since then, she hasn't come over and seen her grandson. The only time she saw him was when we ran into her. She doesn't call me, I don't call her...we were never close like that. She speaks to her son (my husband) on his cell phone and doesn't ever ask to come over or anything..just tell ___ and ____ I said hello. He doesn't care if his mother comes over either.
I know I shouldn't be complaining because everytime she comes over, she starts some drama...but doesn't she want to see her grandson?

Answer 1

Another MONSTER IN LAW story...
Family issues are sometimes hard. Maybe she wants to avoid the conflict as well. She should figure out some way to see her grandchild though. My ex sis in law keeps my nephew from us and it is hard. It isn't fair to us, but more importantly isn't fair to him. Adults have to get past the drama for the sake of the child.

Answer 2

I think its her loss if she dosent want to be involved in her grandsons life and one day she will regret her pettiness.Sonds l ike she is a major drama queen and things have to be exactly to her liking.If she always caused trouble every time she came over count your blessings shes kinda out of the picture if she dosent come around you dont have to hear her crap and your baby dont need all the drama either.If you are afraid about child not having a grandmother in its life start spending more time with your mother she will probaly be more then happy to be involved in grand babys life more then the other one too.I think hubbys mom needs to step back and realize what shes doing and maybe hubby can have talk with her

Answer 3

She sounds like a very petty and selfish woman. I would say ignore her, but that makes your son lose out on having a relationship with his grandmother. I would spend more time with your mother, if your MIL is a drama queen. She will regret it.

Answer 4

My mom is the SAME way!

I've learned to accept it! You have to, you cannot control her or what she does or doesn't do.

Unfortunately your son gets hurt, I know. My daughter asks all the time about her Grandma...so I try to be nice as possible.

They will understand when they get older. And they will learn early on that lifes not fair and all people aren't nice.

Just focus on the positive good people in your family and show your son all the love you can.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Sounds like MIL has issues. Perhaps your son is better off not seeing her. It is her loss, not his. She will miss all of the important firsts in his life and will eventually become a stranger. I wouldn't force it on her, let her be the loser in this one. You love your son enough and when he gets bigger (if you don't talk negatively about MIL) he will be able to form opinion for himself.

Answer 6

If you are truly worried that this will affect your son’s upbringing then go and speak with her.

Call her and ask to come to her home.
Go alone.
Politely ask her what was said. Listen to her. Ask her why she does not wish to see the child. LISTEN

Decide if her answer makes sense to you.

If it does respect her wishes but offer a safe haven in your home if she wishes to see her gradchild.

Answer 7

She knows where you live. She knows your phone number. If she wants to see them, all she has to do is jump in her car or pick up the phone. You should not have to chase her to be a good grandmother.

Answer 8

It sounds like she's a real problem. It's her loss alone, especially if it's not causing difficulties between you and your husband. Ignore her.

Answer 9

I should be so lucky. Let him enjoy his other grandmother and chalk it up to MIL's loss.

Answer 10

sure its always wrong for grandmother or mother not to want to see the children.