The first guy and i had one of those in and out relationships....sometimes he wanted me sometimes he didn't....most of the time he was unsure about us while i was so so sure.....then prior to that we were just friends for a long while and i know every one hes dated. Infact one of his ex flings is now my very good friend....Anyway so he travels alot and sometimes we'd go days without seeing each other. But my feeling about him and i is that it could never work seeing that he's always been so unsure about us. He did'nt even tell his best friend about us....and yet all my gals know i love him. So about six months ago i met guy number 2 on a dating website.....we talked all the time as friends and got to know each other very very well. We talk on the phone and email and chat online and all. Guy1 decided to call it off...i start falling for guy 2 but deep down still love my friend guy 1. Guy 2 and i love each other now.Guy 1 wants me back! wants us to work i'm Stuck HELP. whats right??
2006-07-17 05:44:35 · 13 answers · asked by strawyanna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you know the answer to your own question but, since you want us to reassure you...
Guy #1 didn't feel you were worth his full time and attention when you were so certain about him so why should you make yourself available now? You didn't even matter enough for him to share with anyone that he was with you. People need to start knowing their worth and not let others misuse them. Guy #2 is the here and now. He's the present so treat him as a gift and leave Guy#1 where he is...the past.
2006-07-17 05:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by oneluv66366 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u had ur chance w/ the 1st guy.... and he blew it. he didn't realize how good u were until u found someone else! u have to decide if that's too little too late, or if u love him MORE than this new guy!! but it sounds like u are learning to move on and he is jealous, and trying to get u back, which is selfish! he should be happy that u are finding someone else who loves u. if u really believe that he will try harder this time, by all means give it a go, but most likely he will end up doing the same thing. once u are back in love w/ him, he will take u for granted and treat u badly.. don't let someone continuously treat u bad.. it's like a bad habit. most guys don't change, and if the only reason he wants u back is cuz ur with someone new, that's not worth it to ditch this new guy who loves and treats u better.
2006-07-17 05:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for guy 2. If guy 1 has never really worked out in the past, what makes you think it'll work again? It might seem like you still have feelings for him because you two were on and off. Just go for guy 2, give him a chance and if it doesn't work out between you two and guy1 still wants you back, then you can go out with him again. Good luck! :)
2006-07-17 05:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you pick Guy #2. I'm sure your feelings for Guy #1 will evaporate once you see how much Guy #2 cares for you. If Guy #1 was unsure but wants you back NOW THAT YOU AND GUY 2 ARE IN LOVE, then that's just wrong. That means, Guy #1 never valued you in the first place 'til this guy (Guy #2) made him realize how precious you are. #2, baby! ;)
2006-07-17 05:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by chilimuncher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with Guy #2. THe only reason Guy #1 wants you back is because you are with another man. It's called control. In his mind he felt he had some control over you while you were single and still pining over him. Such is not the case now and he's lost his control.
2006-07-17 05:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guy 1 sounds like he wants you but at times regrets ever having you as a girlfriend. if you and guy 2 get along better and he doesn't seem to regret whatever relationship you have with him, forget about guy 1 and move on to guy 2.
2006-07-17 05:51:07 · answer #6 · answered by aznsport123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear Sister go for the second guy otherwise the first guy will be doing this every now and then. and later he will dump you. go for the 2 guy and be free cos he is having time for you. love is just understanding each other one and being there for you.
2006-07-17 06:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by Maa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for guy 2.
He sounds like he isn't so iffy.
Sounds like guy 1 just wants a competition.
2006-07-17 05:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by silly_emo_hair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy 2 sounds like a winner--stick with him and forget about guy 1 who is insecure.
2006-07-17 05:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is one of the most wonderfull things in the world once you have it you never want to let go, but its only this way if it is rite. you want guy 1 because you loved him for a long time and it never worked coz of him, so you want guy 1 just to see wat happens and i guess thats ok but wat if you pick him and you dont feel the same and you loose guy 2, MESS, but in sticking with guy 2 you will never no wat could of happened with guy 1. so please take a few days to clear your head and think about this. could be 1 of your more inportant things in life you have to deside on. its your heart do wat feels rite for you. good luck honey.
2006-07-17 05:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by pamelarush1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋