I dwell on things for long periods of time. Especially when it comes to movies with violent, sexual, and dramatic content... so i end up watching disney movies or the black and white classics instead but my boyfriend can't stand them... is it unfair to my boyfriend that i can't watch "guy" movies? If i do watch them, he ends up having to put up with my depression for the following couple of weeks. It drives him nuts that I have to avoid watching the news and only look at environmental news sites... what is the fairest way to handle this situation?
2006-07-17 05:41:22 · 11 answers · asked by constanze_mylove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u are very sensitive person...and it doesn't matter that it "annoys" him!!! he CHOSE to be with someone who is sensitive, therefore he must act accordingly! i think that if he really loves u, he loves ALL of you... including the little 'quirks' such as loving Disney movies (who doesn't!!!???!!) and also he will try to protect u from all things that *scare*, *hurt* or bother you. if it frustrates him that u don't like certain things, it can be an indicator that he will not be able to understand your position in more important conflicts that come up in relationships. for example, if he understood that you don't like those things and purposely did the R rated stuff w/ his friends and did the Disney w/ you, u could TELL that in the future he would try his best to do what would keep you *happy* and healthy, ESP if watching those things cause something as serious as feeling depressed for couple of weeks.... why should he be frustrated?? if u gave it a chance, but just can't stand it, that means something.
it's almost like u are allergic to peanuts, but he wants to force it down ur throat or gets annoyed cuz u have an allergy.... but it would harm ur well being.... that's not the kind of boyfriend i would advise anyone to be with...i don't know him, so my advice would be to just be careful, and focus on communication, and hopefully he can understand what you need in order to feel safe and happy in ur life. :)
2006-07-17 06:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hold on until you have kids, then you won't watch anything except Disney and G rated movies for 13 years.
2006-07-17 12:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by Luci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend should be more understanding that you are sensitive to such things...If he wants to watch a "guy" movie, leave the room. He will eventually get the message.
2006-07-17 12:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest therapy...something in your past...most likely something violent...has hightened your sensitivity to this content...you need to work it out.
If I am wrong on this, what you need to do is build up a sensitivity to it. This culture of ours is getting more violent and sexually explicit every day and you are going to have to build up a resistance to it because it's to going to get better.
2006-07-17 12:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by Rabbit Ritto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay. You have what we call a conscience. It's good and healthy for you to react the way you do. Most people these days, like your boyfriend are totally desensitized. Don't change, we need people like you. Tell him to **** off it it bothers him.
2006-07-17 12:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by andrewtm78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need therapy if you don't take care of this now it will ruin you and all of your relationships in the future.
2006-07-17 12:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by Fresh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him for someone who can understand that you don't like watching violence or drama.
He sounds like an idiot.
2006-07-17 12:44:10 · answer #7 · answered by HeatherLyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to find a b/f who is into your feelings. this is something big on your life, so you need to be with someone who really cares about your feelings
2006-07-17 12:48:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't watch what makes u unhappy! simple! im kinda am like that 2.
2006-07-17 12:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a relationship is a give and take situation. he will give a little and you give a little on that situation.
2006-07-17 12:47:24 · answer #10 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋