I just need an opinion on this. I love my fiance very much. We've been together almost 2 yrs and getting married next year.
My mom and dad always seem to make a comment about him when I see them and he is not there. They always mention how they hate how he answers for me sometimes and that he thinks he knows everything.
I just get aggervated when they bring up the same flaws in him all the time. I mean no one is perfect, I have flaws too, and I can sometimes act like I know everything too, even though I dont.
I have talked to my fiance about answering a question that was directed at me. He said he is sorry and he does try to improve. I catch him on it all the time if it bothers me. He knows that he sometimes comes off as he knows everything. He said he dosent mean it that way. I understand this, and he told me he will work on it and try to phrase things differently.
Its like my parents think I can speak for myself. Its like they dont realize I will tell him when he is doing that.
2006-07-17 05:32:52 · 7 answers · asked by TeraBytes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Is my parents try to get to not to marry him. They say they like him fine. But why do they always bring the flaws up. They dont see me when I talk to him about what he does that aggervates me.
I have told him in front of my parents and he gets very embarrased. He feels my parents find so many flaws in him, he doesnt want me to catch him on them in front of my parents.
I agree I should be on his side now and not always back my parents whether they are right or wrong anymore.
2006-07-17 05:34:58 · update #1
My fiance and I have been living together for a little over a year now also. It has been great. We do have our little arguments but doesnt everyone?
We talk about everything and have made a pact to get thru lifes problems no matter what and not rush to divorce like a lot of people do.
He treats me great also. Opens doors, kisses my hand, buys me great b-day gifts ect. He told me "whatever makes me happy" He has told me over and over that he wants to be with me forever and that I am the most important woman in his life and always will be. He treats me like a queen. I too love him and want to be with him forever.
My parents just make me doubt our relationship sometimes. I dont really notice him doing the things they say he does all the time. When I do, I talk to him about it.
2006-07-17 05:48:10 · update #2
My parents always make judgements behind my BFs back all the time too. Ive been with my BF for 4 years now. And yet they will say that they like him but make comments too. Dont worry about it. Tell your parents that if they are SO upset about him answering for you then THEY need to tell him up front, right in the moment, because it is not true and even if it is you dont mind him answering for you. Tell them you are sick of the comments and dont want to hear it anymore. Everytime they make a bad comment, leave the room/ house. Make it clear that you are marrying him and that this behind his back talk has to stop!
2006-07-17 06:29:35 · answer #1 · answered by Educated 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds your parents have a valid point. You have to remember they only want whats best for you - you're their daughter and they aren't going to stop caring about you or loving you just because you're engaged. It doesn't mean they don't like your fiance, it just means they are trying to stop you from making a mistake you could regret for the rest of your life.
Also remember that if your fiance is doing this now the chances are he isn't going to change. You need to stand up for yourself and tell him that you're quite capable of answering questions yourself. If he's this controlling now, he'll only get worse when you're married.
Think long and hard about this. It's easy to put your fiance before your parents and most people make this mistake. Your parents will ALWAYS be there for you, no matter what. This is more that can be said for most relationships.
2006-07-17 05:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by Twinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, i might run, run, run remote from this courting. Why? BTDT. became into in a courting the place the guy allowed his father to interrupt us up with this sort of rubbish. Your fiance is the only that needs to deal with this, no longer you. if your fiance isn't guy adequate to tell his mothers and fathers to stop this, then he's not mature adequate to marry. He needs to take accountability for his tickets and his twist of fate. If he won't stick up for you in the previous the marriage, then you definitely do no longer stand a brilliant gamble after the ceremony. those human beings will make your married life depressing. Do you certainly should have in-regulations like those? Please provide severe theory to despite if or no longer you elect to stay your life surrounded via this sort of negativity. you're able to do greater effective, woman!!!
2016-10-08 00:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by hobin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are trying to save you from making a mistake which could impact your life for a long time. It doesn't mean they don't like him as a person. It means they're concerned about you. For someone to answer a question for you, it hints that they are somewhat controlling. That could get far worse if you're married to that person.
2006-07-17 05:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reflect on what they're saying to you. If you utterly feel like this is an issue, deal with it. But don't let your engagement teeter on your parents opinion. Take in what they say and addess it. You love him, don't you? Everyone has their issues, trust me.
2006-07-17 05:37:25 · answer #5 · answered by myoddthoughtss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, he trys to improve for you, and it doesn't bother you that much anyway, then I would say it doesn't really matter what your parents think.
Don't worry about what others think if you are happy, even if they are your parents.
2006-07-17 05:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by c_wag03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did he really write this question for you?
2006-07-17 05:35:27 · answer #7 · answered by doo to doo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋