my ex broke up with me 4 months ago and he moved on. i have a bf that i like, but i still have feelings for my ex. what should i do?? who should i choose??
2006-07-17 05:27:46 · 39 answers · asked by Anne-Marie B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think your former boyfriend is available to you anymore. As far as choosing, why not wait a little while and see how things go with your new boyfriend? Things don't have to be so serious immediately!
2006-07-17 05:31:21 · answer #1 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your ex has indicated that he wants you back why would he even be in the choosing? Stick with the new guy or find another. It is okay to still have feelings for the ex, most people don't just stop caring for someone. It takes time to get over and move on in your life. I wouldn't bring up the ex in front of the new guy for sure.
2006-07-17 05:34:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your ex still have feelings for you? That's the question you should be asking. So lets just say he does, well then if you both have feelings for each other then by all means get back with him try to work out whatever it was that broke yall up in the first place. Be nice to the other guy but be honest also tell him whats going on he has a right to know!
2006-07-17 05:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by flutter_by_baby20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the ex, has moved on the choice is clear. It's not healthy to have expectations of getting back with someone who has moved on. You need to keep moving on also. If I were you I'd choose the guy your with now. Getting over an ex is difficult, but give it time.
2006-07-17 05:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mustang L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should either stay with your new bf or just start anew completly...your ex has moved on...you should too...its hard, I know, ive been in the same situation, but although you will still have feelings for your ex, you need to get on with your life, and try to forget about your feelings for him, or at least try to like, make them not so strong...closure is the best way to do this...don't think about him and try to avoid seeing him for a period of time...
2006-07-17 05:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by Queenie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex broke up with you and moved on even if you have feelings for him you probably don't have the option of chosing him
2006-07-17 05:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex is moving on to a new phase of his life, why can't you? is it because of the love you've spent with your ex which holds you back? isn't that cheating? i mean, you have a new bf and yet your heart belongs to your ex! and what is the your point of having a new bf? a substitute? a buffer?
if you were in the shoes of your new bf, what would you feel?
isn't it time for you too to move on and concentrate your attention to your new love instead of bringing back memories of the past? your ex isn't coming back.
2006-07-17 05:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by curiosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably always have a place in your heart for your ex, but he broke up with you, which means that relationship is done. Take it from someone who has been there and done that--move on, honey, and appreciate the new person in your life.
2006-07-17 05:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by indigogirl17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex has moved on it doesn't sound like you have a choice other than to date the new guy or move on to someone else.
2006-07-17 05:44:45 · answer #9 · answered by nimbleminx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the guy you're with right now. Eventually the left over feelings pretty much go away. There might always be some kind of feelings for him but you have to get over him and stop hanging on to him. Give your new boyfriend a chance.
2006-07-17 05:43:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel you should move on and accept yr current bf,
since your ex has already moved on and chosen another partner.
what you say obviously shows that perhaps you're not yet ready to move on from your past relationship.
if u really want to be with your current bf but feel that you're not ready, maybe u can have a talk with him and tell him that u need more time. take it slow. :)
if he really likes you for you and cares about u, i'm sure he'll understand and wait for you. :)
2006-07-17 05:32:48 · answer #11 · answered by sparklene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋