A question for the ladies!?

Question

I just got in a huge fight last night with my boyfriend &want 2 know if i was wrong? O here is the short version. There was a concert in town yesterday & i said i would like to go with he said it was just the guys & he would like to go alone so we made a deal if i did not go i get 2 pick what we do next weekend all weekend we agreed& i stayed home. He got home &told me how his friends girlfriend went with & how her boyfriend was not even going 2 come but they finally got him 2 meet them at the gate. Well about 2 weeks ago same deal i wanted 2 go 2 the taste with them but it was just the guys & of course this girl got 2 go with but this time with her boyfriend! I was very upset when he told me cause i felt it was unfair if it is guys only it should stay that way. He said he has no control over it & he can't stop his friend from bringing his girlfriend & i said ok but once u knew she was coming u should have called & invited me I would not have gone but the invite should of come

Answer 1

The best thing to do is say ok... then call up your girlfriends and go out there... If you see him and he asks what ou are doing there... tell him that you are out with your friends like he is out with his....
You would probley have a better time anyways!
But to really get him back... get the girls together and do something that he likes to do and tell him its a girls only trip. MAYBE then he would understand what you are feeling.

Answer 2

He's right, he has no control over his friends. But if it's supposed to be guys only, then everyone should respect that and follow the rules set down by the group. This boy is not following the rules by bringing his girlfriend. It should have been pointed out to him by the group the first time he did it. The second time it happened, it means two things. One, the other person doesn't care about the rules. Two, there never were such a rule. So you have to decide for yourself which course of action you want to take. Honesty and open communication is very important here. Does your bf wants out of the relationship? Does he feels that he's not having enough time for himself? Discuss this with him and see what you both can come up with. Meanwhile, there's nothing to keep you from having a girls only group date with your friends. Good luck, dear.

Answer 3

First off sweets, you have to respect his honesty. He didn't have to tell you that his friend brought his girlfriend. If he had something to hide I don't think he would have even told you. Second, your boy fiend is right. He has no control over who his friends bring. It seems to me that you feel singled out. The last thing you want to do is smother a man. Let him have his space with his friends. I feel that as long as he is being honest with you and makes it his business to spend quality time with you you are all good. It becomes a problem when he never has any time for you and lies to you.

Apologize to him and have make up sex for a week. You both obviously love each other and I think you might need that little extra something special because you have been feeling singled out lately. DON'T HURT HIM GIRL....LMAO....HAVE FUN and DON'T make any babies. At least not yet. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 4

I had a boyfriend kinda like this a couple years ago. For me it got to the point that I had his friends license plates memorized. If i drove by and there was a strange car or one particular car there I confronted him about it. The entire time all I could think about was "is he cheating on me and who is she?" I would take the advise of these other people and have a girls night out on the same night as guys night out and then go to the same place he has told you he is going, no better way to catch him.

Answer 5

It's always healthy in a relationship to have nights away from each other. And it does seem unfair that this other chick attends events that you want to go to, but like he said he can't control what his friends do and maybe he is just looking for a night out without you. A night out with the guys after all is a night out with you. And that's not a bad thing, like I said, it's good for a relationship.

Answer 6

OMG! (I didn't really read the WHOLE thing girly, but I stopped when I read "guys night only"...DAMN i hate that too!)*
Here is the thing, as girlfriends, us girls tend to enjoy and want more "free time" with our men and all, but guys just want us at a "right and chilling out" time...it is a little more complicating than that and I am afraid to use the whole damn space below.....so let me just tell you...DO NOT BE JEALOUS...I know I know who am I to tell you that ,right? well I am somebody who had a boyfriend for about five years (on and off, of course...) and guess what? I AM much more Mature and carefree...also WE ARE MARRIED and have a great bunch load of money and happiness with love and all...so just make plans for the two of you and tell him " take care baby and remember I am always here waiting for you..." (when he leaves with his "buddies" he'll have those words in his head all NIGHT LONG! and yup..you guessed it...come rush over to you!) *BINGO* caring and showing all this sexy, catlike gestures to him before he leaves makes him feel special and makes him want you MORE...so keep that in mind, ok? tatata know.

Answer 7

Inviting you was an choice he could have made doesn't mean he had to do it. You felt left out but if he wants some alone time give it to him cause you may wanna hang with the girls. Let him hang with his boys and whoever they tag alone just long as he ain't cheatin with one of the girlfriends everything cool cause you have alone time and boyfriend time later.

Answer 8

I think you were right. He was very inconsiderate towards you. But then sometimes guys need to have guys night out only, just as we need girls night out only. So stick to the agreement that next weekend you do something together that you choose and the following weekend go out only with your girlfriends. See if he gets jealous.

Answer 9

Sounds like he is just trying to kick it with friends and no one has told his buddy with the tag-along girl not to bring her. Which means they wouldn't care if you went and your boyfriend is the only one who wants you to stay out of it. I would ask him why he wants to be without you on certain days and start finding things you can do without him to make your point!

Answer 10

Guys stop being perverts......all she wants is a female point of view.

Follow him and see whats up. He might be up to something.......... All in all.........when the fights get too much find a solution,for now I think playing detective is a way forward.Goodluck.