boyfriend troubles?

Question

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. He is a really great guy, but we lived in seperate cities. I have recently moved to his town which is really small. One thing that bothers me is since moving here i have found that alot of his friends are people he has dated and had sex with in the past. I don't know anyone here but his family and he introduces me to his friends but I am a bit weirded out by the histories. He has a very permiscious past and that bothers me at times because he talks about it alot in a bragging sense in how everyone wanted to get with him and how he got laid easily etc. He is very muscular and is a nice guy all in all. but I just feel really weird moving here into this situation. I feel that saying anything would ruin his social life. I have asked him to move to my home, but he is anable to due to work and family Mind u it is a small town, so these people are everywhere and not easily avoided
what should I think or do here?

Answer 1

break up with him!!!

Answer 2

This happens all the times when a person becomes an adult in his small native town. It's logically he slept with most of the local girls, since he knew only them and they were his friends. As he didn't interfer with anybody else, like going to college to different city etc etc he was involved physically with the girls he found available and near to him: locals. Don't be bothered as it's his past, but what you can do is telling him not to mention about his past adventures and affairs in front of you cause you're jealous by nature, that you accept his past, but "it doesn't mean we should all get together and start laughing on how great knight you were before having met me and how great those sex experiences were". If he is smart enough, he will realize it's stupid telling about his past and making fun of it. Otherwise it means he is still immature and he might consider your relationship with him not much different from the ones he used to have.

Answer 3

You need to talk to your bf about how you feel when he brags about how easily he can get laid. So what? If he's promiscuous, then you need to protect yourself from STD and have yourself tested for HIV and STD. If he had sex with alot of people, remember, every time you sleep with him, you're also sleeping with these people. In a small town like this, you have to bite your tongue and move on. You might want to reevaluate your relationship with your bf if he won't stop talking about his past sex life. Does he miss it? Does he really wants to be exclusive to you? Good luck,dear

Answer 4

You are getting into a bad situation. The man is self centered and has no hope of bettering himself. Before you get too deep, you need to get out. This guy will only cheat on you repeatedly. He obviously can't stand to be with one person for too long and would rather have a f**k buddy than a girlfriend. This relationship is doomed to fail. Get out of the small town before you get stuck and get hurt. NOW!

Answer 5

Dear, if it is starting out like this, do you really think it can get better? How much are you willing to sacrifice to make this relationship work.
It sounds like most of the town intimately knows what you are getting right now, and that is creepy. Add to the fact that he is bragging on this, makes me wonder on his character. Are you the new hot prize he has, did he want you to come to his town to 'show' you off.
How deep do his feelings go?
Remember for every person you sleep with you are sleeping with the last 10 people they slept with.
Following your heart, head, and gut on this one.

Answer 6

you have to be careful...someone w/ a promiscuous past could spell trouble. if you really trust and love this person, give him a chance to "change".. however keep in mind most people (esp guys!) find it VERY hard to change their habits and personality, esp as they get older. let him know u don't really want to hear about his past, and you are working on your FUTURE together! if he is bragging about how great he was and how many times he got laid to you, that is just disrespectful! he should be focusing on you, and making u feel safe and secure so that you can TRUST him. if u don't trust him cuz he keeps talking w/ his previous partners, u may be in for some rough times later on when things get serious..... and if he continues to talk about having so many partners to other people as well, he may have some kind of confidence complex, cuz he has to keep talking about what he's done in order to make him feel like a "big man". concentrate on making him feel like a great boyfriend to you, and focus on your relationship. if he can't keep that focus, move back to your own town and see what happens to your relationship. if he really loves you, he will make it all about YOU and no one else.

Answer 7

Why didn't you just visit some time before making that move?

It's one thing for the past to be the past but he keeps throwing it up in your face. I'd move back and get my old life back. That kind of exposure can make you very self-conscious (as you already know) and your mind games will erode at your trust even if it's unfounded.

Answer 8

if you worry about it, it will eat you. if you think he is cheating on you then say something. if he is bragging....he's a guy, they do that. if it's really in his past, then know that and move forward. if the bragging gets bad...brag back. embellish your stories..."oh yeah, i remember this one time when Joe was going down on me, he said I smelt like roses and stayed down there for 2 1/2 hours, I came 7 times!!"

Answer 9

go back to where u came from if u know that much crap about his pass and he always braggin in ur face about his past ur a fool to even listen to him are stay with him are around him so what ever he does to u,... you will deserve it unless u get up off ur tuff and do something about it like take ur self back to where u came from..

Answer 10

i dont think i would be able to go on in the relationship since its such a small town unless he moved

Answer 11

practice very safe sex and be aware that he is immature

let him know

and move on if things continue as they are