I have been friends with this guy for a couple years now. We dated breifly last year and I decided that I just wanted to be friends. He is the guy every girl would want to date. He's caring, generous, romantic and a lot more. I am just not physically attracted to him or atleast I think. I started dating him as I was slowly getting out of a relationship with someone I have enourmous feelings for. So I am not sure if that may be my problem. This guy has proven over and over that he truly cares about me and is very interested. I'm just not sure if maybe my guard is up from previous relationships gone bad or if I am definitly just not interested. Any suggestions?
2006-07-17 04:58:55 · 13 answers · asked by Lisa Marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have already tried it out, then he might not be the guy for you. But I would like you to ask yourself one thing....do you think he's too nice? and your not attracted to the "nice guys" If you just answered yes then I would tell you to go for this guy!
He might be exactly what you need to regain faith in men. We sometimes get used to the wrong treatment and this might help you open your eyes.
2006-07-17 05:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that. But it sounds to me like you just don't have that attraction to him that is usually found in relationships. He soulds like he is very good to you and cares for you, but if the attraction is not there it might be bad for both of you in the long run to try to force yourself to feel something you don't.
People come together for a lot of reasons, and the physical "turn on" isn't always necessary. But if it's bothering you a lot you may be telling yourself that you really only want to be friends.
Good luck to you.
2006-07-17 12:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually if the attraction has not happened by now it never will. I was not attracted to my husband, but the kind of person he was outweighed the physical. But the chemistry came quickly after meeting. We have been married 7 years now.
I have been in a similar situation as you. I could never make myself attracted to him no matter how hard I tried.
If the attraction doesn't come within a month or so, move on.
2006-07-17 12:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by Kelli C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, attraction is the first phase of a relationship but it is not the only phase. You can get attracted to him down the road. I mean you never know what works in life without trying it..So don't take advice from anybody who gives you an absolute answerlike yes it works or no it doesnt....Life isnt like that...
I would give a try and see what happens... you wouldn't loose anything right? It looks like he is a good guy....
2006-07-17 12:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by a a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you see the true feelings of this guy towards u then u might learn to like him but if according to u he is-int that attractive and dont really have much interest for this guy then I don't think you might be in a very long relationship with him but if this guy really likes u then I don't see why you shouldn't give him a shot.
2006-07-17 12:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by ♦bE cOOl♦ ☻ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything takes time to mature, but you need to have some physical attraction for it to work out. Right now you're probably just going to end up using him as a rebound until you find a guy who really turns your crank, and he'll end up hurt. Go single for a while.
2006-07-17 12:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by The Central Scrutinizer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. If you are not attracted to him physically, it's not going to work. Believe me. He may be a great guy but if you can't see yourself being passionate about him, it just won't work out. You're better off as friends. I know that sounds very egotistical, but it's the truth. Good Luck
2006-07-17 12:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by carolinayaya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you like him enough to be concerned about the situation. I would say that you'll get past the looks. Besides that...most guys who are caring, generous, and romantic are either taken or gay...so keep this one around!
2006-07-17 12:03:07 · answer #8 · answered by keepmynameoutchamouth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so, I thought my wife was wierd as hell when i first met here. She was good looking, but really wierd. As I got to know her, i liked her more and more. We have been married for 12 years now, and together for 16
2006-07-17 12:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just sounds like you aren't over your ex. You need to totally get over him before moving on. Your friend sounds amazing. Once you are sure you are over your ex and not going to hurt your friend, I would say go for it.
2006-07-17 12:02:50 · answer #10 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋