Should i quit school to spend more time with my son?

Question

I am so ready 2 quit school. I have no time 4 my 15 m/o baby boy. I babysit my nephews during da days just so dat i can B wit my son, but i don't give him all my attention since i have 2 other kids 2 look after. As soon as they all go down 4 their nap, i start getting ready 4 school (college). Once my mother or sister get home, i run out da door 2 catch a train 2 school. i'm at school all night & don't get home til like10pm. By da time i get home, my baby wants 2 go 2 sleep & i can't even lay down wit him bcuz i have 2: clean up whatever mess he made, wash his bottles,take a bath and do homework.Dis routine repeats itself mon -fri.I don't give my son da attention he deserves! When i finally do get a break from all da chaos, i jus want time 2 myslef & i feel bad bcuz i should want 2 spend it wit my son. i'm only 20 yrs old & i understand dat i have responsibilities but i'm just so tired. i'm tired of dealing wit kids, tired of being rushed 2 finish school. I just wana b wit my baby =(

Answer 1

DO NOT DROP OUT!!!!!!! It seems hectic now, but it will be good for you and your son in the long run. I had to drop out because I no longer had a car and I regret it. I'm going back next year and I will bust my butt to get through it. Finish this semester and then look into the non traditional classes they have. When I was there, I had one course that I went to for 3 hours every saturday. The reason the classes lasted so long was because it was an 8 week course. Another one was a webflex class. I would go once a month for 4 hours a day and that was to take oru tests and turn homework in. The homework was online. Just look into the different classes available.

Answer 2

Don't quit school (it only makes it so much harder to return). The best gift you can give your child is a strong and stable life as he grows up. Your eduction is important to further you in life. What you could do is cut down on the number of classes you're taking. It'll take a bit longer to finish, but you'll be able to squeeze in a few more hours of quality time with your son. Is there anyone else that can assist you during the day with babysitting? If so, even if it's for a few hours 1 day a week, you can devote that time to your son. It's not the quantity of time that's of utmost importance. It's the quality of what you do in that time that matters. By the way, where's the dad in all this? Another alternative to your problem is to get your degree via the internet. You may pay a bit more for your tuition/credits, but you'll be home and can spend the time with your son instead of traveling to/from school. I found that "Strayer University" in PA was pretty resonable in their prices.
Whatever you do.... DON'T QUIT SCHOOL !!! Finish it. You won't regret it.

Answer 3

How much longer do you have in school? Months, years? If it's just a few more months, I'd stick with and try to hang in there and finish. Once you graduate and get a good-paying job, you'll not only have (hopefully!) a decent schedule, but more money so that you can take your baby out and do fun things with him. If you just started school...well, it depends. How would you support him when you're working doing what you're doing now to make money? Would you scrape by, barely making ends meet, constantly be miserable and strapped for cash, always be short-tempered because you're having money problems, etc.? If you don't continue school now, the only option I can think is to put school on hold until he's in kindergarten, or at least pre-school and is going to be in school a good deal of the time anyway, and then go back.

Answer 4

If you finish school, caring for your son will be much easier by getting a job with good pay. It would suck to have to work 2 jobs to raise him, cause then you would see him even less. But you do sound very over worked. Try your best to get though this semester, then next semester take a lighter load. I believe it's the quality not quanity of time you spend. Nuzzle him when you can, but be relaxed. Your son can pick up feelings from you so if you are always stressed around him, he can feel that. Being stressed sometimes is fine of course though. Good luck in whatever you choose to do though.

Answer 5

Girl,

Trust me go to school even if it is weekend college or part time, because it will be worth it for you and your son, and you know what tell whoever you babysit for that you can no longer do it for them, I was in the same situation, I am a full time nursing student at a prestigious college and I am a single mother and trust me it can be done. I manage to spend time with my baby girl, study and relax. It wasn't easy at first and I needed to adjust, but now I am almost done. I know that I will have a secure job in 6 months making some real money do that I don't have to babysit for the rest of my life. Take your school seriously before it's too late.

Answer 6

Ok let's say you quit...Now you have placed yourself in the "unemployable" category since even fast food employers are beginning to require at least a 2 year degree to say "Would you like fries with that?" So what will you do when you can't get a job? Go on welfare for the rest of your son's life? Live off of the taxpayers?
I suggest you stay in school. Get your degree and settle into a good decent paying job...and by all means please learn to spell. If you fill out a resume'/application they way you have posted here you will never get a job because that resume'/application will go directly into the shredder. If you're not getting paid to babysit, give it up. Find a daycare near where you go to school and sign your son up. Most colleges nowadays have daycares.
Then learn to suck up and deal with your problems...You are responsible for the consequences of your actions and one of those consequences is not getting to spend time with your son...so stop whining. There are no free rides.

Answer 7

I would say not give ur school. I know that this sounds 'depressing' now that you have all these responsibilities. But i am sure, that if you give school up now, you will regret it later in your life. And, apart from this, you think you are financial ok and that you will be able to have a job that will support you and your son if you don't finish school?... It's a really hard time for you and you nead to keep pressing urself. You are a wonderful person for being able to handle with all these... When you grow up more -like in 10-20 years- you will feel really proud of yourself for managing finish school while having all these other responsibilities. But it's all up to you!...
Good Luck!

Answer 8

Well I think staying in school may be a luxury you can't afford right now. No one wants to give up higher schooling when it could lead to a better income, but ...

You aren't a single person anymore and your kid needs your company; for you to be around.

I think you should drop out for now and be there for your kid. You may not make as much money and you may have to work harder than you might have without a degree, but at least your child sees you more. You can finish school later. Get a job to support the 2 of you and enjoy some consistancy with your routine.

Years later your kid will profusely thank you.

Answer 9

I don't have any kids but i can relate to your pain as i have so many friends and my sister went through the same thing. You don't have to quit school. There are so many other options. Some colleges offer daycare at the campus( you could take your kid to school and see him in between classes), some colleges you can even bring your children to class with you, and theres always the option of taking on-line classes. theres so much you can do and so many options. i would hate to see another young woman like myself drop out of college you seem like a smart young woman just because you have a child doesn't mean you can't go on and be everything you have always wanted to be and more. You owe it to yourself and your child to graduate from college. Good luck! i know you will make the right decision.

Answer 10

Depends on your purposes of attending school. In attending school, would this give you the background/knowledge/credentials to get a good day job so that you have the rest of the day for yourself and your son versus giving your energy to someone else's kids all day. Look at what your long term goals are. Perhaps sticking to the program right now will bring you to a better place for you and your son in the future!