Thanks to everyone that answered my Japanese Manners post. I now have one instead of two students but things have gotten worse. This student now thinks it's ok to treat my parents as if they are his servants. We told him that we will drop him off and pick him up before and after work, unless there is a school activity. On Friday he lied to my parents saying that the teacher was having a party. He was really hanging out with his friends. He tried it again. He expects us to feed him meat at every meal. If we don't he complains. We made it clear to him that no smoking was allowed in the house, but his room constantly has a strange smell. I want to report him to the office that I have a contract with about this but I don't know how I'm going to say it. Another thing is that he treats my mom and I like crap but is ok with my dad and brother. Is there any truth that in Japan women are considered lower than men? This guy is in his 20s. Any advice would be appreciated
2006-07-17 04:51:02 · 6 answers · asked by christigmc 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
How do I tell the agency this? This student has alreay been complaining to all his friends that we don't give enough. It would surprise me if the agency has already heard complaints about me.
2006-07-17 05:06:53 · update #1
send him back, he dosn't deserve to be here, and yes, Japanese men have about as much respect for women as they do for dogs, so... good luck with that.
2006-07-17 04:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by anymorebrainbusters? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hellloooooo.......take this situation and wrestle it to the ground.
This guy has an attitude at this young age. Just kick him out of your house. You need not be *very* polite about this. Just tell him that you cannot have him, no reasons need to be given, and give him a time limit (like, say, tomorrow evening etc..).
If he gets rude, abusive etc.. report him.
You don't need anyone around your house who has such bad manners. I am not Japanese, but I have seen many people of Japanese origin that have high regard and respect for another human being. I really admire your culture. I used to live in Japan for a few years.
Rudeness is not part of your culture. This guy needs a lesson in good manners.
About your agency: Don't worry about what the agency thinks. That is not your concern. Tell them exactly what you have written here. They will understand, pull him out of your house and may be replace him with another, good person.
Good luck.
2006-07-17 12:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You need to be assertive and show who's the boss here, i mean he is living in your house, the least he can do is be polite and respectful. Forget that he is Japenese, he's just plain rude.
More power to you, all the best dealing with that prick of a guest.
2006-07-17 11:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anya M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have talked to him and there has been no change in behavior...then you have no choice but to talk to the agency.
2006-07-17 12:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by Deana G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you want him out.
2006-07-17 12:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno abt the japanese facts, but this dude needs a hard smack across his face and a wake up call to reality. show him his place before he causes more trouble.
2006-07-17 11:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by tobeornottobe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋