i have a friend at school and she said that she loved me but the problem is she is huge...when I say huge i mean HUGE..so, I asking you love freaks out there to give me some advice ( please )
should i accept or should i ditch her ( because she's fat??)
2006-07-17 04:46:48 · 23 answers · asked by Dante-rebillion 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get a grip ......
2006-07-17 04:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like from what you wrote that you already have a problem with her looks so why would you even bother asking. Each person has to decide what they are attracted to. If you like this girl despite her being over weight and you do not fear your fellow male friends given you a hard time about being with her then why not take a chance and see what she has to offer you as a friend or maybe more. To many people but looks to high up on their list, everyone one day will look like crap in one way or another and no matter how you look everyone needs a friend and love. You know sometimes when a person is over weight and a person actual shows some true and real interest in them it opens up the door for then to lose weight.
2006-07-17 11:57:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You evidently don't want to be with her. I think being superficial can spoil what could be a really good relationship. The fact that she said she loved you is just way too fast. I'm guessing you two are young and you should probably talk to your parents about a way to let her down without hurting her feelings.
Example:
"I really like you and think your a great person, but I don't have the same feelings for you and don't want to lead you on."
Of course it will hurt but she will eventually get over it. Time heals all wounds. I just suggest you don't be a jerk about it and listen to what your friends tell you to do.
2006-07-17 11:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by lololol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are looking at looks then just dont get into that relationship because all that you will be doing is hurting yourself and the friend.Love my dear goes beyond just physical attraction goes to how you guys communicate and if you share the same feelings so just pull out before it is a little too late for the two of you.Dont get into the relationship just because the other party says she loves you.What are your feelings?
2006-07-17 12:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks are usually involved in the lust,and attraction part of .after a year or so the true love takes over.and its not as important. having said that,i'd say dump her i hate fat chicks,to me fat means lasy,no self control,and huge medical bills.also sets a terrible example for any children you might have.
2006-07-17 11:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by Joseywhales1998 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her then her look should not matter. So search your soul and let her know one way or the other. But if you dump her for being fat, then I will conclude that you are superfical and one day the same thing may happen to you.
2006-07-17 11:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by Bishop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there has to be an initial attraction. You will get alot of "hate mail" for asking this question, but you do have to be attracted to the person for a relationship to work. I mean, you can't see personality from across the room, right?
2006-07-17 12:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should answer the ques Dante. Are you interested in her?
If you are easily swayed by what other people say or think best to find someone who others may not be too critical of.
2006-07-17 11:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by Latoya L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have feelings for her? If you do go 'head for it. She probably got a great personality in her that can win you over. Don't be rude, take her out or something. Looks ain't everything. Alot of sexy girls have MAJOR Attitude problems, and I wouldn't date none of their azzes. Except Melyssa Ford.
2006-07-17 11:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by jayanderson05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to distinguish the "Love" and "Obession", "Love" is a feeling that you are really wanting to be with someone, no matter what the situation and circumstance is. In your situation, you are unconfortable with her, which mean it is not really "Love". If you love her, you should feel confortable, no matter what she looks like. "Unconfortable with her" is just a "Obession" or some "Sexual Grash".
2006-07-17 11:56:13 · answer #10 · answered by Laloo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you were fat would you need love too?
I think you should grow up some cause she is a person just like you fat jst gives you more to love good luck
2006-07-17 11:53:23 · answer #11 · answered by crystal a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋