I trust him but he has a lot of girl and guy friends that are really young. He just graduated college and hangs out with kids who are 16-17 and still in high school. The only reason is bothers me is because I feel like he's starting to act their age and I don't want him to stay on their level. I can't even bring up hanging out with them less because he's insanely loyal to his friends even if they screw him over. He knows I'm the one person who would never hurt him or screw him over and I feel like he would choose them over me. How do you deal with a situation like this? god forbid I tell him to stop hanging out with his friends. He would be so mad at me and we would end up getting into a huge fight.
2006-07-17 04:40:51 · 23 answers · asked by lololol 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I trust him but he has a lot of girl and guy friends that are really young. He just graduated college and hangs out with kids who are 16-17 and still in high school. The only reason is bothers me is because I feel like he's starting to act their age and I don't want him to stay on their level. I can't even bring up hanging out with them less because he's insanely loyal to his friends even if they screw him over. He knows I'm the one person who would never hurt him or screw him over and I feel like he would choose them over me. How do you deal with a situation like this? god forbid I tell him to stop hanging out with his friends. He would be so mad at me and we would end up getting into a huge fight.
(Yes, most of the people he hangs out with are girls "he doesn't judge gender" but it makes me really insecure and jealous and he knows that...but tells me he would never cheat on me or hurt me. I'm 19 years old and refuse to hang out with people under 18 years of age)
2006-07-17 05:03:03 · update #1
I don't blame you for questioning his company. The fact that he continues to hang out with high schoolers as his friends, eventhough he's finished college, shows his maturity level.
You don't mention how old you are, and how old your friends are. Do you two have any mutual friends that are closer to his/your age? If so, you might want to encourage doing fun things with them. Also, does your boyfriend have a job? Then how about encouraging doing social things with co-workers?
Whatever you do, I think you should let him know this bothers you, whether or not it turns into a fight. If it bothers you enough to break up with him (especially the part where you say you feel like he'd choose them over you), then be prepared to walk away, and know that that's okay. It could be that the two of you want different things out of your relationship right now, and you both deserve to be happy and comfortable with your friendships and relationships. It might be time to make some tough choices, but you may be happier with it once your heart heals.
2006-07-17 04:53:15 · answer #1 · answered by dukefan86 4 · 8⤊ 2⤋
It is not a bad thing. A few years younger is okay. Your boyfriend is only 20, he is still a teenager in is mind. Woman tend to grow up and mature faster then men. My husband is 33 and he still acts like a 17 year old. As long as your boyfriend knows what is priority is there will be no problem. Let him have some fun, but I am sure he will not choose his friends over you. Just let him know that you don't mind that is still hangs out with his friends as long as he knows his priorities first.
2006-07-17 11:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by nbubbyjak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are friends, and age doesn't make a difference. I am 20 and I believe my youngest friend is 15. Big deal. If you want to stay with your boyfriend, learn to accept his friends and the behavior he holds while he's around them.
He's only 20, he's right on the line of being an adult and still having teenager in his system. Let him live out being young still. Don't expect him to turn into an adult suddenly and ditch all youth outlets.
2006-07-17 11:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes totally normal cuz im 20 to and ppl that age are pretty fun most of the time and balive it or not all guys like 2 fllirt with girls and most guys think guys should be 2 or 3 years older then the girl .but dont think he doesnt liike u still cuz im sure he does he just likes 2 hang out with more ppl thats not u but he will get over it cuz hes saposed 2 party around cuz he ju§t graduated .
2006-07-17 11:50:08 · answer #4 · answered by mcooler3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know, I had a friend once that is like 21 and she liked guys way younger than her, mainly because she was fat and unhappy and they liked her for other reasons such as money, a car, legal age to buy alcohol. Sorry to break it, but those younger kids are using your friend and when those kids are done with your friend, you're friend will be alone, he'll come crawling back to you, when that happens tell him to go to hell. I hate people like that, seriously.
2006-07-17 11:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by Goodbye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys who are 20ish are on the same emotional level as girls who are 16-17. So they are both looking for the same thing...It's called gettin' some strange.
2006-07-17 11:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by keepmynameoutchamouth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the younger kids look up to him because he's older and has been to college. He might just enjoy this type of "idol worship" that he wouldn't get from people his own age.
2006-07-17 11:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Coop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as his maturity level is about that age then yes.. Guys are 4 years behind females maturity wise..
2006-07-17 11:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by movu101779 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is normal to have friends that areyounger than you but if you 2 are always fighting it is time for you to find a new man there are plenty of fish in the sea
2006-07-17 11:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by toria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 25 and i have friends who are older like in their 40s i find they have much more in common with me because i act older then i am but you said he's acting their age so i don't know
2006-07-17 11:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋