I love my kid unconditionally. When it comes to my wife I am not able to. Can any one tell why and how can I love my wife unconditionally?
2006-07-17 04:30:12 · 12 answers · asked by K S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is usually something that just "is" and not learned. But something you could try is not being as critical and judgmental. You probably have some unresolved anger or unforgiveness. Once you free yourself of resentment, change your standards.
Your wife is not living up to your "mental" set of expectations. Because of the way you were raised, you expect certain things from people. People are human and will always fail you.
Your kids disobey you all day long and you forgive them. Do the same for your wife. See her value in things that have nothing to do with her actions or status. It sounds like you may have gotten together for the wrong reasons. That doesn't mean it is the end. You just have to change yourself, because you can never change her.
2006-07-17 04:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by Kelli C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
children are always no matter what the unconditionally part, partners are different my husband always says how I love the kids more, in some aspects its true but not all theres different love in there and the partner love is a unconditional love , but a childs is a different unconditional love as well its hard to explain, if you look close you will find you have it for her as well just a different one, if not then there would be troubles there but doesnt sound like it.
2006-07-17 11:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean unconditionally as in no matter what they do? Or is more who they are? I love my husband no matter what, but there are limits on what he could get away with ... like I would divorce him in a New York minute if he cheated. I would sell my soul for my son, and I sincerely doubt that there's anything he could do that would make me stop loving him. So maybe you need to examine exactly what you mean so you can arrive at an answer that fits your life, values & beliefs.
2006-07-17 11:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love your child no matter what he/she does or says.. however your wife might have a few annoying habits or traits that unfortunately put a strain on your love..
Accept everything about your wife and then you can love unconditionally
2006-07-17 11:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by Sorcha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think anyone will be able to answer this question for you but yourself. I believe we love our children the way we do because they are an extension of us - a part of us. We see many of our traits and flaws in them. As far as your wife goes, only you can answer that question and maybe seeking counseling to find out why then that may bring some help to you. You may never love her unconditionally but you owe it to her and to youself to find out why....
2006-07-17 11:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unconditional love for our children comes so easily - as for our spouses, well, if you believe in God, he is the only "person" that can help us love our spouses unconditionally. Through him, we learn to love and forgive.
2006-07-17 11:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by moss03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you can ever love a person that didnt come from you unconditionally and its not a bad thing. your child is from you so its different.
2006-07-17 11:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by ciera V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are of our making.We are responsible for the way they turn out"or so they say anyway".A spouse has made a promise to us there for we hold them at their word.I think you should look more for the forgiveness factor and acceptance of you spouse than unconditional love.For you see the entire act of marriage is setting conditions for the future of the relationship.
2006-07-17 11:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by STACK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have unrealistic expectations of your wife. Do you love her according to he behavior or her appearance? That's not true love. You should pray about it.
2006-07-17 11:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no ideal, you won"t love her like your kids! She surely feel the same!!
2006-07-17 11:35:58 · answer #10 · answered by SUN FLOWER 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋