I've recently bought a brand new flat and working down in the sales office on site is a gorgeous guy - he really is tall, dark and handsome! We've had a few conversations but so far only about problems in the flat. I've found out he is single but I just can't pluck up the courage to ask him out - I just think if a guy is interested he will do the asking...friends say maybe he thinks it wouldn't come across as professional if he asked me out. What should I do??!!!
2006-07-17 04:25:27 · 28 answers · asked by long_luscious_lashes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've recently been in this situation and I'm going around to his in an hour or so for dinner and yet another glorious passion filled night. Here's my secret:
You're right, if he like's you he'll ask you out but you have to set the scene you know, subtly let him know you're interested. Only complete pricks will be confident enough to ask you out without any encouragement. So try to be a bit cheeky, a bit flirty. Nothing too heavy- just like you would with a cute barman or shop assistant.
Now after a few days of that, try to come up with a problem you know he'll be able to help you out with. Something that you can quiet reasonably say "really, you think you can help. Well if you take my email address just let me know if....blah blah blah".
If he likes you he'll either suggest dinner to talk it over there and then, or he'll take your email address and send you a business type email with flirted undertones which you need to capitalise on by upping the flirtiness. Eventually you'll be talking about private email jokes and will be able to comfortably invite him to dinner or the pub where you can develop a more personal relationship.
If none of this gives you any joy he probably doesn't like you so ask him out anyhow just to be sure. If a guy likes a woman he will find a way around the whole professionalism thing, you've just got to show that you're worth the hassle (by actually showing that you like him.)
Good Luck
2006-07-17 05:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by poppyfields 2 · 11⤊ 2⤋
The days of only guys asking women out are well and truly over. Equal opportunities n all that.
Honestly tho, if you like the guy then why not just go for it. What have you got to loose? If he says no then it might be a bit embarrassing but its not as if you see him every day and within a few days you woulda forgot all about it. On the other hand, what if you don't ask him and hes been wishing you would all along, you coulda got together if you went so nervous.
If tasking him on a date is to much start slowly, next time you see him let him know you are going out with a bunch of friends and you will be in a certain pub or something and let him know he is welcome to come along. If he does then you can chat and get to know him, if not they you know hes not the guy for you and you didn't have to go through the embarrassment of asking him out.
2006-07-17 04:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by crazychick_lou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've found that more and more, guys are waiting to be asked out. I'm not sure if it's right or not, but it works. They are flattered when a woman asks them out. A lot of times they are just nervous or think they'll be turned down. Guys have a hard time being rejected, but a lot of guys have a hard time with the girl being so forward. Take your time, but go for it!
2006-07-17 04:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by photomom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Ask him out.
Try to find a nice way to ask him out.
Maybe call him about the problems you may have with your flat and then when discussing about that you may offer him a coffee, and tell him: maybe it would have been better if we had this coffee somewhere else, don't you think so? And smile.
Find smth nice and don't let him slip off your hands.
Good luck
2006-07-17 04:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by atrabel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to work on your confidence to ask him out and be strong. You can do this. Just mention a gathering of friends and invite him over with some friends a few times.. trust me if he is interested he will talk to you.
2006-07-17 04:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by Wildfirentampa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out his schedule of leaving or arriving at the bldg. Then wear your shortest little skirt and most flattering top...make sure he walks up the stairs behind you and then ask him in for a drink...
or you can just tell him you "fancy him" and would like to get to know him alot better! Then jump on him!
2006-07-17 04:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should have a few more conversations about the problems of your flat before asking him out.
2006-07-17 04:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite him up for dinner under the guise that he was so friendly and nice to work with and you'd like to thank him for his efforts. Then see where it goes. If he's attracted to you he'll ask you out. Otherwise don't ask him out.
2006-07-17 04:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by akc1106 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go ahead and ask him do it casually though i have problems asking guys out but if you don't just ask him if he says no no lose just secretly love him tell maybe he thinks your not interested just show him a little interest
2006-07-17 04:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by horsehottie06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Light and friendly smiles when ever you see him. Say hi with eye contact. If he's interested he will pick up on it and ask you out.
2006-07-17 04:30:09 · answer #10 · answered by Crazymomo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋