I have three kids and two by the same guy and he just left me two weeks ago with no money and 1000 dollars in bills, he only calls once in a while and thats late at night. but I still love him and he is a good dad. what should i do?
2006-07-17 04:17:15 · 7 answers · asked by nicky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should put all your energy and attention on your kids right now. I know you probably do love this man very much and it hurts that he left you, but when there are kids involved you need to focus on them right now. If you and this man are meant for each other, trust me things will work out like they are supposed to without you even having to do anything. If he is a good father that won't change just because he isn't there. Sometimes it really turns out worse if you try and keep someone there when they feel they don't want to be. It creates a lot of tension, and also a lot of resentment towards the other spouse down the road. The point is don't make this man do something he really doesn't want to do. If he feels he has made the mistake of leaving you and the kids then maybe what he needed was time like this to think it through. I think he could have done a better job of telling you he was leaving, but you can't change that right now. All that you need to do is come to an agreement with yourself and know where you want to be in your life with or without him.
2006-07-17 04:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He left you 2 weeks ago with no money and $1000 in bills and only calls once in a while late at night. Now call me stupid but I dont see where he is a good dad. A good dad would be there for the kids, make sure they have money to eat, make sure the bills are paid so electric doesn't have to be shut off, and would call earlier so he can speak to the kids. Your just fooling yourself. What will you be waiting for ? When will he come back ? When the bills are paid ?
2006-07-17 11:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to analyze the whole situation before deciding on anything. You said he left, was it for good, or he just left for a period of time and will be back with you soon? if you meant that he really left you for good, then there must be a reason behind it and you must think about it seriously. If it can still be resolved by talking to him, i suggest you try it first, i'm sure you don't want your kids to miss their daddy so if you have the heart the accept him back, that is if he returns... then all you have to do is follow your heart.
2006-07-17 11:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting some child support from the guy and while at it have them make him pay those bills. After all they are his kids to. Sounds like another dead beat dad case.
2006-07-17 11:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about him!
how is he a good dad when he left you to look after his kids with no money and and a stack of bills?
only speak to him about the kids, otherwise, forget the loser!
2006-07-17 11:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him cool down himself,he might be thinking of a solutions.for the time being, ask family members to clip-in to help out with the daily bread & butter affairs for the childrens which utmost important.
2006-07-17 11:21:14 · answer #6 · answered by Goosters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he left you with no money and a bunch of debt, how is he a good father. good father's provide for their families.
2006-07-17 11:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋