I did everything for this man, clean, cook, show him attention, and gave him great sex whenever he wanted it. But he still cheated on me and did it in my house TWICE!! The girl called me at my job to tell me about the second time and i did'nt confront him yet. I really need him to help me with my rent and bills but I don't want to hurt anymore what should I do.
2006-07-17 03:48:17 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should want more respect for yourself where this is concerned. I know this is probably not the best time for you to kick him out since you really need the money to help pay for bills, but it doesn't do you any good to have him there disrespecting and cheating on you in the process. What I would do is pay the bills that need to be paid if they are almost due. Let him help you since he does live in your house. You can also maybe try to downsize some things that you may not really need in advance so when he is gone you will be able to pay your bills yourself. Try saving for your rent or house note now, so that you can atleast have that when you deside to let him go. Prepare your finances now so that you have that in order. Come up with your own plan that fits you best in this situation. You deserve so much more in life right now. Let him go and let this next woman be his victim. You deserve happiness, don't put it on the line just to have someone help pay the bills. You will always regret the time you wasted by doing this if you do. I wish you the best with this!!!
2006-07-17 04:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him and get a second job (or a roommate), or move to a place you can afford...and in the future, don't put yourself in a position where you are dependent upon someone else to live. As you can see, it causes you to feel you may need to keep yourself in an unsatisfactory situation due to financial concerns. That's "old-days" woman...modern women tend to be more independent and should be...stay with a partner because that's where you want to be (and so do they), not because you don't know how you'll pay the bills if they're gone...
2006-07-17 03:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the way you WANT to live then live it!
You are not the only person in the world this has happened to, I put myself back through school and have been a single parent for over 5 years making it on my own and yeah sure a lot of things changed, a lot of things had to but it depends on what you want for your life. Do you want to be independent or do you want to need this jerk? Sorry hun, I know this answer isn't what you want to hear but if you don't decide to change your life then you get what you get and you can't expect people to feel sorry for you.
You have to quit relying on someone else and make your own financial security!
2006-07-17 03:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fast answer is not any. The longer answer is ask your self what has replaced on your existence interior the final 2 years that he cheated after 15yrs mutually? If he's up for it get counselling mutually, if no longer flow your self and stumble on the relationship, then paintings out what you desire. better of success, I even have been there with a cheating husband, its a very painful place to be. have confidence is easy to lose and extremely tense to regain. interior the top we divorced. i'm now with a guy who does not cheat on me. good success.
2016-12-14 09:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by kimbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T SAY ANYTHING YET, LET HIM PAY THE BILLS THEN TELL HIM TO GET THE HELL ON, THAT IS THE LEAST HE CAN DO, I KNOW IT HURTS BUT BE STRONG AND YOU WILL BE ALRIGHT, GET A JOB OR A SECOND JOB, IT'S BETTER TO BE ALONE, THEN IN BAD COMPANY.. BESIDES YOU DON'T NEED THE STRESS ABOUT WORRYING WHAT HE IS DOING BEHIND YOUR BACK, I AM SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCE, THEY DO IT ONCE THEY WILL DO IT AGAIN, MOVE ON THERE ARE PLENTY OF FISH IN THE SEA, HE WILL REALIZE WHAT YOU HAVE DONE FOR HIM BUT IT WILL BE TOO LATE, TRUST ME, FREEDOM IS GREAT! GOOD LUCK
2006-07-17 03:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by JULIE V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a way out of the rent. Or line up another roomate right now. Do not let this butt-plug use you any more. Cause he will continue to do so. Is there anyone you can move in with and stick HIM with the place? Start exploring your options.
2006-07-17 03:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by Quietman40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about leave the pig and look for a cheaper place to live? I'm not sure where you live but in London there's loads of share accommodations inclusive of bills you can find on gumtree.
2006-07-17 03:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by Yoruba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me girl im in the same boat, he has cheated so many times it is unreal but i have no place to go an can not do the bills alone, i stay , but its the most unhappy life , there is times i wish i was dead, things never get better, i did everthing you have did, an nothing works onces a cheater always a cheater , mine show no remorse , he no i have to stay , good luck
2006-07-17 03:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should leave him, and either find someone else to help you with your bills or you could get a job and pay your bills yourself.
If I were you, I would go with choice #2.
2006-07-17 05:14:26 · answer #9 · answered by Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
detach emotionally and keep in mind that if thinks hes gonna play and get away with it then he can pay, or do the right thing and give him 30 days to pack and go during which time you find a roommate........these days i would tend to go with the first one, but then again i am pi$$ed at most of man kind for treating me like crap in every relationship.
2006-07-17 03:53:15 · answer #10 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋