How old is to old for a baby to be wearing a diapper and a mom to be breast feeding?

Question

my son is 3 years old i just reselty had a new born but heres the catch they both are still in diappers and the 3 year old still wants to nurse someone help me i cant to it any more i would hate to have a 13 year old hanging on my breast and wearing a diapper!

Answer 1

My son was 3 when I had another baby too, and he was still wearing pull-ups at the time. At first he wanted to nurse too, so I pumped out some breastmilk and gave it to him in a cup. He tasted it and decided it wasn't that great, so he stopped asking me. I only recently got him out of diapers, I had to give him a really good incentive- no more preschool until he wears big boy underpants all day. He had been going to preschool 2x a week for about 2 hours a day, and LOVED it! It only took a week for him to not pee in big boy underpants. Lets see- I think he was about 3 years and 7 or 8 months at the time. So you just need to find something your son LOVES and take it away until he learns- that's the only thing that worked with mine.
Just nurse your kids as long as you feel comfortable doing so. It's your choice.

Answer 2

Ok the nursing should have stopped before the new baby came you shouldn't be nursing both that is just to much to keep up with. He probably is just doing it for security, try a blanket or a stuffed toy as a substitute offer that when he wants the breast, also he is 3 so he understands tell him reinforce the fact that he is no longer the baby and that it is that baby that needs the breast now not him.

As far as the diaper thing goes work with one thing at a time and the other will come try the reward system with him it worked for my boys, give him a sucker or sticker or gum ball something he really likes for every time he does use the potty.

Children are hard work there is no deigning that but give it an honest try and it should all work out.

Good luck

Answer 3

This is just my opinion......I think a child should been weened from the breast at 1 yr old. And potty training should start between the ages of 2-3 depending on the child. I tried to potty train my son at 2 but he wasn't ready so I waited til he was 2 1/2 and it only took about 2 months to get him completely trained. I would say don't try to do both at the same time. That may be hard on the child. Definetly time to get the child off the breast!!! Then try the potty training after he is weened from breast. Besides, when your new baby is here it will need all of your breastmilk and won't be able to share with your older child! I know it's hard to see the child cry about not getting what he wants but he'll make it though and be just fine! You just gotta get tough mama! Good luck!

Answer 4

Tandem breastfeeding is also convenient if a woman gives birth to a newborn while still feeding an older baby or child. Under these circumstances during the late stages of pregnancy the milk will change to colostrum for the benefit of the newborn. Some older nurslings will continue to feed even with this change while others may wean due to the change in taste.

Although some may find it controversial, some women breastfeed their offspring for as many as 3 to (rarely) 7 years from birth. This is referred to as extended breastfeeding. Supporters of extended breastfeeding say that all the benefits of human milk, both nutritional and emotional, continue for as long as a child nurses. Detractors believe that prolonging breastfeeding for several years can result in the child developing emotional or psycho-sexual problems, though there is no research that supports this theory. There has, however, been at least one study linking extended breastfeeding with adverse cardiac outcomes later in life.

Answer 5

Boys take longer to potty train than girls. The average age for boys is around 3. The natural age for weaning is also around 3. There's a great book called "mothering your nursing toddler" It's a great informative book. There is a lot of information about tandem nursing. It's good for both kids, and doesn't make the baby suffer. Just make sure you're eating properly and taking a vitamin. Good for you for going so long, I nursed my son until he was 2 1/2.

Answer 6

I think that is too old for breast feeding. As for the diaper wearing, I know of a little boy that is nearly 4 and is just now starting to use the potty. His older brother was potty trained much sooner. Some kids are just stubborn and take longer.

Answer 7

The 3 yr old is merely jealous of your infant. Treat them both the same, but at the same time, give the 3 yr old some leeway or privelidges that the baby does not. As he grows into this 'older sibling' role, you can then direct htem to the potty training as just another part of being the older child.

Answer 8

If you had taken him out of diapers before the baby came he probably would be back in them now! Boys struggle with the diaper thing generally (at least my three did!) He just wants some of the good stuff that other little interloper is getting!

Make sure you are forcing other family members to help you care for the baby! I know it sounds wrong to say force but a lot of really good men aren't going to step in and take care of the baby without force! So leave the baby with it's father and a bottle of formula (gasp! I know, but guess what if it's hungry it will take it especially from someone other than you! and one bottle of formula isn't going to hurt that baby one bit and you can pump and freeze your extra production for a lovlier bottle treat next time) Left alone with as few directions as possible men can care for babies especially if the females in their lives let them do it their way. (They will survive!) It actually makes the men closer to the children!

Your 3 year old needs alone time with his father--they can share their misery at your lack of attention for them! Your 3 year old needs alone time with you where you can praise him for all the things that make him such a grown up boy--for example you and him can share a bag of fries and you can't do that with the baby. I wouldn't start to potty train him until the infant is on a regular schedule and you are feeling strong and healthy again. Make sure that he is still getting that cuddly time with you but make it with some nice short books so he looks at the book instead of sucking your breast! Make a point that he has big boy teeth now that can hurt mommy! Find a "special" drink he sips only in your lap--juice box, chocolate milk, etc.

I have 4 children ages 16--3 go with your instincts and try to depend on the kids' Dad to help! They will when forced to and it is amazing how close Dad will become to kids they had to take care of! Remember to praise Dad every time he cares for them and you come back and everybody is alive and uninjured!

Make some time for yourself too. Maintaining a calm demanor and long haul perspective on it all will help everything!

Answer 9

Just stop nursing him. Wear a shirt that he can't get into. And he will cry but he is old enough to self sooth. Get pull ups and wake up in the morning early enough to put him on the potty before he pees the first time. I have a two year old. He is potty trained. But it is more like I'm trained. I get up to get him to the potty. I take him every two hours. I sit in the bathroom with him for many minutes to give him time to go poo.

Answer 10

Personally, I think when a tooth pokes through get the boob out of sight. I think 18 months is the ideal amount according to many things I read. As far as diapers are concerned it depends on the kid. I think by the age of 3 a kid should definetly be cool with using the toilet. My daughter was potty trained fairly well by the age of 2. I still wasn't comfortable with leaving the house without pull-ups but she did well. Start as soon as you feel your kid can grasp it.