How do you handle your child's birthday? Do they get two separate birthday parties, one with each family, or one all together, or do they have nothing to do with the other family? Curious about other people's situations...
2006-07-17 03:39:54 · 11 answers · asked by angelbaby 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Usually two separate parties.
2006-07-24 00:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by The Mick "7" 7 · 19⤊ 0⤋
I am married but I come from divorced parents. They got divorced when I was 6. I never had birthday parties(mom didn't have a lot of money and raising 3 kids on her own). It sorta depends on you and your child. If you want to throw a party and the child's father wants too also, then there is nothing wrong with that. If you and other's can get along then have a party together. My family always had a family dinner(usually went out to eat on my birthday) and my dad would come over after dinner for cake and to give me a present or 2. Holidays were different. Thanksgiving was at Dad's, Christmas Eve was at Dad's, Christmas day was all mom's. Valentines day was mom's. As I grew older things changed some. Parents couldn't be in the same room with each other so dad never came over. He did the birthday thing how he wanted to do it. He usually took us out when he had visitation.
It really depends on you and your situation. As everyone is different
2006-07-17 10:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by couriousk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do a party with our family and friends and his father does his party similar I'm sure. Sometimes one of us has to celebrate a week early or a few days later. This way we both get our quality time. Children are smart and this will have no negative affect on them for future birthdays. I think it would be confusing to a child if both parents got together for a single party, especially if both or one parent has moved on. It could make it an uncomfortable situation for everyone.
2006-07-17 14:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by Building Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever makes you feel comfortable. If you have a good relationship with your former spouse then encourage 1 party, but if there is a bad one, then stay separate so that the child can have a happy day instead of a stressful one. It's all about the best interest of the child.
2006-07-17 10:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by ladylaw_912 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, in a perfect world, the parents of a child should be able to put aside any and all differences they have for the sake of their child. I have two step children and we have always tried to get along. While we definately have our separate holidays, we have invited the ex to birthday parties and vice versa. Your child can feel any hostility, etc., so if you and your ex cannot get along for even the shortest amount of time, don't bother. Talk to your ex about it, and see what he is comfortable with. Good Luck!
2006-07-17 11:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by working mom of 3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my situation my x usually throws big parties for the kids, because he feels guilty that he isn't around so much. I refuse to feel like I am competing with him. So what I do is just let them have 1 friend over, we have a small cake, and go do a special activity together. It actually works out to my benefit, because the kids remember that day I spent taking them and there friends to a special place and we spent quality time together. I also get the benefit of spending time with my daughters friends and I get to know the dynamic of there friendship.
2006-07-19 20:11:32 · answer #6 · answered by Gemini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, luckly my son has a good a relationship with his father's family. I just do a combined Birthday. My friend on the other hand, does not get along with the daughter's other family. So her daughter gets two parties. Her daughter doesn't mind, of course because she gets two parties!
2006-07-17 11:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by prmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband and I have a decent relationship, especially when it comes to our son, but we still do separate parties. I dont want to ever give my son the expectation that his Dad and I might end up back together. We did one party together because of the cost of the party my son wanted (laser tag at $25 a kid) and the next day I got, "I wish you and my Dad were married again". It kills me and I dont want to put my son or me in that type of situation.
2006-07-17 11:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by melody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son usually gets to have two seperate "parties". We don't ever really do a big party at our house because his grandma on his dad's side always over does it, so we figure there isn't any reason to try to compete. Cake and candles and a gift is about as much as he needs. (5 years old) Best wishes
2006-07-17 11:02:35 · answer #9 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 1 party for my son with both families included.
2006-07-17 11:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋