Me and she were madly in love. the relationship continued deeply for about 8 months. There were there were occassions when she was angry with me. But, I was always nice to her and declared my unconditional love. We were very close to getting married. Then it happened ... Her mother has convinced her not to marry me due to my financial situation and my family responsibilities. She still talks to me and listens to me when I say "I love you". But, she tells me that she only wants to be friends with me and nothing more. Was I too nice to her that she got bored? Will I ever get her back? Will she marry me? It is so painful now...after being so so close.
2006-07-17 03:36:54 · 10 answers · asked by Harpreet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well obviously you aren't giving us enough information...but here is what you do.
Stop stressing about this, and focus on YOU. If you don't make any money, find a new job. If you don't have a degree, get one, and make plans to get one. If you can't afford it - get loans.
Better yourself, and stop thinking about her. This will do 2 things.
1) Your life will improve. Your views on the world will expand, and suddenly, you'll be more interested in other things in life and one girl. Your life and future will be fantastic...it just will take some time and dedication.
2) When she sees you working so hard, she'll have TONS of respect for you, and want you again. When you tell her you're going to focus on school for a while, or try to get ahead in life...she'll want you even more because you can't date her. Tell her you can be friends, but you don't want to mess up your path in life with love. This will drive her insane. Women want what they can't have. The second you stop showing her interest...she will die :-) Haha...
2006-07-17 03:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't joke or hurt your feelings because that's not nice. I can definitely understand why you feel the way you do. It is obvious you have deep feelings for her. If she allowed her mother to convince her not to marry you that should tell you something. It is obvious her mother controls her life which means if you guys got married her mother would control the lives you guys would have together. Think about this: when you love someone it does not matter what anyone says you will do whatever it takes to be with them; your ex did not do this with you. She allowed her mother to come between you two. I think you should move on. You deserve a woman who will not let anyone's opinions come between her and the love she has for you. It will take some time but you will heal. Move on sweetie!
2006-07-17 03:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear your pain my friend. If I was you, I would lick my wounds for a month or so and move on. Obvously your girlfriend's mother has far more influence over her than you do.....and it's the kind of influence that would spoil any future relationship you might have together anyway. Money and family responsibilities, you say? Well if your girlfriend has listened to her mother and dumped you bcz of a few minor problems, she wasn't worth it to start with. I know it's hard to believe now, but when you've got your self-esteem back, you will. Trust me. All the best.
2006-07-17 03:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by lou b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say dude no she won't . Move on and remember that this is just one of many Love's you will find in life.
Besides when a woman makes up her mind there's nothing that I know of that will make her change it.
You know I could have just given you what you wanted to hear but that would not be right.
2006-07-17 03:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but would you want to be married to her AND her mother? A person who would end a relationship based on a third party's input is never going to be able to commit to making her own decisions within the relationship. Are you willing to open your life and decisions to any and everyone she cares to share it with while soliciting their opinions?
2006-07-17 03:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love hurts but let her go, if this is how she is in only 8 months then it wont work. i think its just an excuse for her to get out of a relationtionship with you without hurting your feelings , so let her go, if she truly loves you , she would not let anyone or anything come between you,! believe me...i know, been there before,
good luck!
2006-07-17 03:53:47 · answer #6 · answered by mountain girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women want to feel secure, especially financially. If your gf values that more than you, then it's over.
2006-07-17 03:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by mrearly2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one day u will......... just stay as friends 1st... dont push too much.
girls r like that......... if u push them more, the more they move away. cool urself 1st, think what u can do to woo her n maybe one day her family will let u marry her. just follow ur feel, dont think so much........ all the best to u.......=)
2006-07-17 03:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by Andy Heckmen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can serve this problem if you are an agressive person.
2006-07-17 03:40:44 · answer #9 · answered by firewall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to go get her your self
2006-07-17 03:38:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋